As human beings, we have a constant fear of being alone.

It’s potent, ever-present, and persistent.

You have this fear.

To this effect, there have been several times in the past when you have chosen to date someone who wasn’t up to par with what you want in an ideal partner.

Yet, you have justified doing this by the fact that you aren’t attractive yourself.

After all, how can you have standards for people when you don’t believe that you are attractive enough to demand or expect them.

Standards are important, and overlooking them is a dire mistake.

Although we fear being alone as human beings, this isn’t an excuse to make the wrong decisions in who we choose to date or partner up with.

Having standards is how you keep yourself from getting into a relationship situation that is far worse than being alone.

Without standards, you end up choosing to date whoever shows an interest in you despite the fact that she isn’t at all right for you.

She smokes, drinks excessively, is physically violent and verbally abusive, and yet you choose to date her.

These are all characteristics you would much rather she didn’t have, but you choose to date her because she has shown an interest in you.

Being that you don’t believe that you are attractive, you jump at the chance to date her.

Sadly, this is a path to disaster.

As your partner, she isn’t respectful of you, taking advantage of you emotionally and financially.

You see it happening to you, but you choose to stay with her.

After all, where else is there to go to find a new partner, considering that you aren’t attractive.

You surmise that it is better to have someone you are dating than no one at all.

She knows this.

She knew it from the moment she laid eyes on you, given that the signs that you had little belief in yourself were so very apparent.

You became her prey as she swooped in to your life and feigned interest.

But, not long after getting you to fall for her, she went all in on abusing you.

Before you know it, months have gone by and you are a shell of who you used to be.

The dearth of confidence in yourself that you had before she showed up in your life has only intensified.

She uses you for as long as she wants to before dumping you.

You are suddenly alone again, much worse off than you were when she came into your life.

Your mental state makes it that much harder to attract the right person to you, given that anyone with self-respect instantly senses that you are not whole.

No one wants to date damaged goods.

Is this the relationship path you want?

No matter how unattractive you think you are, have standards.

It starts with placing value on yourself.

When you see value in yourself, it becomes natural to want to date someone of value.

Seeing value in yourself begins with making personal improvements.

If you are overweight, start eating a better diet and exercise, whether that means getting a gym membership or working out from home.

Having a face that isn’t attractive, requires that you groom it.

Maintain a well-groomed beard and get a great haircut.

This gives you added attractiveness irrespective of the face you were born with.

Pay attention to what you wear.

Dress in clothes that compliment you.

This dramatically increases your level of attractiveness.

A girl that sees a well-dressed guy with great facial grooming immediately thinks that you are someone that values yourself.

She is suddenly intrigued and develops an interest in you.

This is a girl that doesn’t smoke, drink excessively, or have violent and abusive tendencies.

She is the real deal, meeting your standards.