It’s alright Beverly. You aren’t the only woman in her 30s who has never been on a date before. There are other women who are in their 30s that have had a similar history. A woman that grows up in a strict family and goes off to college and ultimately the workplace without ever having gone out on date with a guy. Don’t get too caught up on what to expect on this date.
Rather, come up with a handful of questions to ask him on the date, and spend the rest of the days leading up to the date directing your attention to other tasks. Do activities that keep your mind from constantly thinking about the date. This keeps you from coming up with all kinds of made-up stories in your head that aren’t true.
These made-up stories have a tendency to make you more nervous and anxious before a date, and you don’t need that.
Do other tasks to keep your mind away from constantly thinking about the date. On the day of the date, take another look at the five questions you have prepared beforehand, take a deep breath, wear an outfit you are comfortable in, and head out to the date. Once there, let him lead. A guy is the one who leads on these early dates. Let him. Simply react and respond to his cues.
As long as you do this, you will be fine. By the end of the date, let him pay for it. Remember, you are the prize here. He is courting you. A guy that financially invests invests in a courtship by paying for the dates, is more emotionally invested in courting the woman. Let him lead, and let him pay.