She is a 36 year old woman, and yet, she connects with you in ways that you have never connected with any girls your age so far in your dating history.
Has it been a dedication to a goal that has kept you from having a boyfriend, or something else that you are deliberately not considering?
In a case where you have been primarily focused on a goal, such as success in your studies or career, that isn’t enough to keep you from having a boyfriend when the time is right.
As a single man in your 40s, the bulk of your friends are already married or in long-term relationships.
It isn’t like when you were in your teens or twenties when the lion’s share of your friends were single.
Without a significant number of single friends, there isn’t much of a pool of prospective dates in your social circle.
When you are hanging out at a friend’s home for a get-together or barbecue over the weekend, all you see are your middle-aged friends who are there with their spouses, or long-term partners, with children running around.