People don’t fall in love with each other at the same time, despite how much one party wants that.

A guy that you are newly in a relationship with isn’t going to fall in love with you instantly.

Although guys fall in love sooner than women in general, they require a roughly three to four months on average to do so.

Being unsure about whether he will ever love you makes sense.

After all, you already know that you love him.

In a state like this, you are susceptible to drawing premature conclusions about him.

This is harmful to your relationship with him, as it tends to negatively influence your thoughts and actions.

Remember, he is a unique individual.

Which means that he is going to fall in love with you in his own unique way and on his own unique time table.

To reiterate, it takes about three to four months for a guy to fall in love, as long as there has been consistent courtship.

Love isn’t a feeling that you can force on someone, and it shouldn’t be.

True love occurs naturally.

Being that you already know that you love him, and want so badly for the feeling to be reciprocated, it’s understandable that you are antsy.

But, you mustn’t permit this desire to overwhelm you.

When a desire this powerful becomes a focal point of your thoughts, you become like a woman possessed.

You overdo your affection for him, strictly with an intention to make him see how much you love him.

The idea is to get him to fall in love with you sooner.

This isn’t wise.

Doing too much to win his love makes the power dynamics in a relationship lopsided.

A relationship with power dynamics that are lopsided in one party’s favor, that of your partner, isn’t healthy.

For a relationship to work and be healthy, the power dynamics have to be fairly balanced.

The affection and effort coming from either party should be relatively even.

When one partner decides to overdo it with affection and effort, it puts their counterpart in a position where they are compelled to get lazy.

This partner leaves it to you to put in the bulk of the work in terms of keeping the relationship viable.

All of a sudden, you are the one who is setting up all the dates, and if you don’t, there are no dates.

You are the one planning trips.

He leaves you to do all the work in the bedroom, while you are being intimate with him.

It goes on and on.

When you are putting in all the work in a relationship, with an intention to get him to love you, you run a risk of losing out on this intention entirely.

If you are letting him do next to nothing in the relationship, he won’t be invested in it.

Without investment, it is much harder for him to become emotionally attached to you.

When someone isn’t putting the right amount of effort into something, they won’t develop any sense of responsibility for it.

Without balance in a relationship, he won’t develop a sense of responsibility for it.

He leaves all the responsibility to you.

The end result is that he takes you for granted as opposed to loving you.

Stop worrying about whether he will ever love you.

As long as this is a relatively new relationship that has only lasted a few weeks, there is still time.

Instead of obsessing over whether he will ever love you, focus on having a balanced relationship where nothing is being forced, and either partner is putting in a similar amount of effort.

With time and patience, he is going to tell you that he loves you at the most unexpected moment.