The first step in getting him to take you seriously requires an assessment and acknowledgment of what you are looking for, and doing so without rushing it.

Once you realize what it is, you are in a better position to determine whether this guy wants the same.

A guy that doesn’t want the same isn’t going to take you seriously.

He isn’t taking anyone seriously at this time.

This means that his reluctance to take you seriously isn’t strictly about you.

If he is not keen on taking anyone seriously at this time, he isn’t going to make an exception for you.

He has no intention of giving you special treatment.

A guy that isn’t open or ready for a serious relationship isn’t emotionally available.

An emotionally unavailable guy is a waste of your time.

You are better off ending the relationship and moving on, so as to avoid prolonged heartache with a guy that is emotionally unavailable to you.

This being said, if your assessment makes you believe that he is open to a serious relationship, it’s time to let him know where you stand.

He doesn’t know where you stand as far as what you are looking for.

Being that you are yet to be definitive about what you are looking for relationship-wise, he thinks you are on the same page as he is.

He is thinking that you are looking for a casual and non-committal relationship with him.

Unfortunately, you have been misleading in your behavior.

Enlighten him on what you are looking for.

Dropping subtle hints about what you are looking for relationship-wise, hoping that he gets it, isn’t a good strategy.

Guys aren’t good at picking up on hints of this nature, and those that are emotionally closed off conveniently ignore them.

When you talk to him, be unambiguous about what you are looking for.

If you want him to take you seriously and take the relationship to the next level, tell him that.

Do this for the right reasons.

Wanting a serious relationship due to an ever looming perception that your biological clock is running out is not a good reason.

There are women that fall into this trap.

Believing that it is time to take the relationship to the next level for fear of losing out on her childbearing years, she forces a reluctant partner to get into a committed relationship with her.

Never force a serious relationship on a guy on account of the desperation that comes with a fast-advancing biological clock.

When you do this, you are setting yourself up for failure.

A guy that reluctantly gets into a serious relationship with you under this pressure, is bound to be a poor relationship partner.

Given that he only entered a serious relationship with you due to the pressure, he is destined to resent you.

Resentment from a partner leads to you not getting your emotional needs met, which triggers constant fights.

The better approach to getting him to take you seriously is to eschew giving him the impression that you are on a time crunch.

Were he to think that you are doing this, you run a risk of pushing him away.

Once you have told him what you are looking for relationship-wise, give him the time to reflect on it should he request it.

This is a serious decision, and an immediate answer isn’t certain to be at the tip of his lips.

Give him a while to come to terms with his own emotions, without pressuring him.

Pressuring him makes it less likely he comes to terms with how he feels.

All this does is compel him to push back his decision on what he is looking for, until you get fed up.

This isn’t what you want.

Give him a fair amount of time to figure out what he is looking for relationship-wise without interference.

This being said, in the event he hasn’t come around to giving you a straight answer in a week or less, you are better off leaving him be and moving on.