There are advantages and disadvantages that come with either chasing or being chased.

Notwithstanding, you both lose if neither one is playing their roles honorably.

Someone who is doing the chasing requires that whoever they are chasing is responding in kind with reciprocal energy.

When you are the person being chased, the advantage you have is in not having to lead.

Whether it be approaching, instigating conversation, or setting up dates and paying for them, the chaser bears this responsibility in the early stages.

When you are at the receiving end of all this effort from someone who is chasing you, it can be extremely tempting to feel like you are in the power position.

As human beings, we have the tendency to abuse power when we believe that we have it in a particular dynamic.

It is to your disadvantage and that of the chaser if you were to abuse this power.

When you are the person being chased, it’s your responsibility to play your role honorably and with class.

You should be transparent with the times you have available to go out on dates, show up on dates that have been agreed upon, and answer or return phone calls or text messages promptly.

Since women are usually chased, some abuse this position by making it difficult for the guy to set up dates or communicate.

They cancel, reschedule, or ghost on dates, as well as not answer phone calls or reply to voicemails or text messages promptly.

This behavior will ultimately do you in.

In most of these cases, you get drunk with the power, and it just gets to your head.

As a result, you treat the men who chase you as underlings who are beneath you.

Emboldened by this power, you use the same approach with men you are actually attracted to, believing that playing these games will get them obsessed with you, just like all the other guys who have chased you in the past.

Unfortunately, he picks up on this behavior soon after having a few interactions with you, and all of a sudden you aren’t hearing from him any longer.

Before you know it, you are consumed with worry that you will never hear from him again.

Sadly, you played the usual games with the wrong man.

He won’t tolerate this behavior.

As a man with self-respect and other dating options, he won’t tolerate a woman who is deliberately making it difficult on him to set up dates, as well as regularly canceling, rescheduling, or ghosting on said dates.

When you consciously decide to wait for several hours or days before replying to his voicemails or text messages, all he is thinking is that you are playing games and wasting his time.

His tolerance level is extremely thin when he encounters behavior like this from a woman he is recently courting.

When you play your role honorably, you never have to worry about turning him off with inconsistent behavior.

As the chaser, the advantage he has is in knowing what he wants and going after it.

When he first saw you, he didn’t have to wait on you to make a move on him.

He knew he liked you and went for what he wanted.

This aggressive and proactive role in how he goes about finding the right mate for him keeps him from leaving anything to chance.

That said, he loses if he plays his role dishonorably by being too overbearing or desperate in how he conducts himself.

This is where he is overwhelming you with too much too soon and not giving the engagement a chance to breathe and develop organically.

Whether someone is the chaser or the chased, there are advantages and disadvantages to both roles.

But, so long as either party plays their role with integrity, they both win.