Those who get into long-distance relationships with a realistic approach and an actionable plan for when they intend to live in close proximity are usually the ones who make it in the long run.

Too many people get too caught up on how good they feel when they have finally connected with someone who fulfills them emotionally.

When you are in a position in your life where you crave the love and attention of someone who makes you feel alive and happy.

This effect is that much more profound when you have been going through a difficult time in your life or have had a rough romantic life.

This long-distance connection feels like a breath of fresh air.

His voice over the phone sounds like music to your ears that brings you comfort and makes you feel safe.

His face on a screen as you talk to him during a video chat is not only handsome but full of kindness and affection.

The text messages you regularly receive from him throughout the day while you are at work, the gym, the grocery store, or the post office don’t only entertain but also validate how much he thinks about you throughout any given day.

Thanks to all of this, it doesn’t take long for you to develop feelings for a man like this.

But the crux is, you are caught up on how good he is making you feel in the moment.

He has created a lot of welcome relief from the daily grind of your life.

He has provided a boost to your sense of self, which gives you a new lease on life.

When you are too caught up on how he makes you feel in the moment, you are making the mistake of not thinking about what you are about to get yourself into.

A long-distance relationship is imminent, and you haven’t thought it through.

You are too stuck on the butterflies you feel every time you think about him.

It’s all you are concerned about at the moment.

This is where you run a risk of getting into a long-distance relationship that doesn’t last in the long run given that your emotions are doing the talking instead of your common sense.

A long-distance relationship feels doable when you are so caught up in how good he makes you feel.

You aren’t thinking about how you will feel when the butterflies start leveling out because you crave his physical presence and yet he is thousands of miles away.

Additionally, you aren’t considering how depressing the sight of couples all around you will be as you go to yet another social outing alone or with platonic friends.

All of this catches up with you when the butterflies level out.

Those who make a long-distance relationship work in the long run are those who don’t get unrealistically caught up on the butterflies.

They strongly consider whether they are capable of managing such a relationship, and just as importantly, they create and adhere to actionable plans for when they intend to live in close proximity or the same city.

It is only when you have this realistic approach that you have a shot at making a long-distance relationship actually worth it in the long run.