Sadly, you were never a girl he cared that much about seriously getting to know.

He loved the attention he got from you.

When you laughed at his jokes and teased him right back, you gave him a thrill.

This gave him a boost to his ego.

He realized that he could easily come to you for his daily entertainment and ego boost through conversation.

Since you were complicit in talking to him and responding to all the flirting he was doing, he kept up with the communication, texting you multiple times a day.

Conversation with him is lighthearted for the most part, but he breaches serious topics every so often.

These include insightful questions about your family, friends, career, life goals, etc.

As time went on, you became more interested in talking about the serious topics than you were in the flirty ones.

And this is where, unbeknownst to you, you began to shift the tenor of the conversations you had been having with him.

Even though he was primarily concerned with lighthearted banter and flirtation, you would introduce more serious topics into a conversation that had to do with romance, past relationships, love languages, etc.

This got to be too much for him.

Attempts to flirt with you were often met with a lackadaisical response, which was soon followed by you asking a question concerning a serious topic.

It doesn’t take long for him to realize that you aren’t as fun and flirty with him as you once were.

When you were happy-go-lucky and with no expectations, the conversations with you were so much more fun and entertaining.

But since you took a more serious turn, the conversations became too rigid, layered with far too many attempts to get him to talk to you about topics that dealt with feelings and emotions.

As a result, he starts communicating less.

He used to text several times a day.

Not anymore.

He is sending fewer daily texts, sometimes none.

This causes you to start reaching out to him more.

Soon after, you are primarily the one who is sending all the text messages, and his responses take a while to come in.

Sometimes, he doesn’t respond at all, which then causes you to double, triple, or quadruple text him.

The volume of text messages you are sending him isn’t doing you any favors.

They sound desperate, filled with emotions he doesn’t believe are warranted, given that you share a casual relationship with him and nothing more.

He sees these emotional text messages and is further convinced he doesn’t want to talk to you.

Finally, he completely ghosts you.

The truth is, all he really cared about was to have lighthearted, flirtatious banter with you from the start.

Yes, there were occasions where conversations took a serious turn, and he asked serious questions of you.

This never meant he was genuinely interested in getting to know you as a person and seriously court you.

His intentions to use you for lighthearted, flirtatious banter were clear to him from the very beginning.

Unfortunately, once you were no longer as receptive to the flirting and more concerned with talking about more serious topics, he saw that as his cue to ghost you.