Someone who has a history of cheating on their significant others isn’t worth the risk of forgiving.

Sadly, he will cheat on you just the same.

No matter how effusive he is in telling you that it was a mistake and he will never cheat on you again, it isn’t smart to take him at his word.

If you know he already has a history of cheating on his past girlfriends, he is innately a cheat.

It is who he is.

No matter how much he tries to convince you and himself that cheating will never happen again, this won’t be the case.

He is a slave to his past.

His mind and body are attune to this habitual behavior.

Even if you accept his apology and he tries to be faithful, it’s only a matter of time before the temptation to cheat reappears.

After a period of time of being faithful, he can’t help but notice the woman in the office who keeps looking at him.

To make things worse, she is coming to work in sexier outfits and deliberately walking by his desk every chance she gets.

Ever since you forgave him for cheating, he has been on his best behavior.

Nonetheless, the storm has calmed.

Thanks to his good behavior, you aren’t as angry anymore.

That means he is no longer as fearful of losing you.

He is getting comfortable in the relationship once again.

Since the fear of losing you is no longer present, his self-discipline begins to diminish.

This is where he is beginning to notice attractive women in his everyday life again.

Not only the woman in the office who has been clearly showing signs of interest in him for the last several weeks.

It’s also the women who look at him when he is in the grocery store getting groceries for the dinner he intends to cook for you later tonight.

The woman who stared at him while they were both pumping gas at the gas station near the home he shares with you.

The pretty barista who serves him his favorite coffee every morning on his way to work and who never wastes an opportunity to give him a compliment.

The temptation is rising all around him now that he is no longer fearful of losing you as a partner.

Inevitably, just as you think the relationship has healed and he has grown as a person, he cheats on you.

This is who he is.

You are right back to square one again, and this time it is worse.

The heartbreak is that much more intense, given how strongly you believed he had changed.

Although the idea of forgiving a partner for transgressing is a virtuous act, it depends on the character of said partner.

There are cases where people become selfish and make an impulsive decision to cheat on a partner.

It was a moment of stupidity that they immensely regret.

These are people who don’t have a history of cheating on their past partners.

Instead of having mature conversations with you so as to resolve what was bothering them about the relationship, they chose to lash out in frustration and be impulsive by cheating on you.

Right after the act of cheating, they become so regretful they immediately come to you and tell you about it.

Forgiving someone like this isn’t necessarily a risky move.

They were stupid and impulsive.

Yet, they were quick to tell you about it while showing oodles of remorse.

If you choose to forgive this person, there is much less of a risk they will repeat the act of cheating, as long as what led to the cheating in the first place is addressed and resolved.

On the flip side, forgiving a partner who has a history of cheating on previous partners is a much greater risk.

This is a person who wasn’t impulsive in choosing to cheat on you.

He was already intent on doing it beforehand.

Since he isn’t overcome with guilt after the act, he doesn’t quickly come to tell you about it.

In fact, he continues to cheat on you with this person or multiple people until he is discovered.

The only reason he is discovered is because someone else tells you about it or you observed suspicious behavior over time that led you to believe he was cheating on you.

It isn’t worth the risk to forgive a partner with this disposition.