Dating requires money.
Someone has to spend the money.
Picture a scenario where you choose to believe him when he tells you he is actively looking for a job.
This is where you take on the financial burden of two people in the early stages of a potential relationship, believing this arrangement to be temporary.
Nevertheless, weeks go by, and he is yet to get a job.
It was easy to be lured into this trap on account of how attractive and charming he is.
You wanted to believe he would get a job soon and everything would be fine.
So, you chose to pay for the dates, feed him at your place, and drive him around, believing it temporary.
Weeks in, you are still doing all of it with no end in sight.
Someone who doesn’t have a job right now is a red flag.
His priority should be to find a job as opposed to dating.
Finding a job requires time and effort.
Dividing his time and effort between dating and looking for a job only makes it that much harder to find a job.
His priorities aren’t right.
Dating costs money.
Even if you convince yourself that it is okay to date him as long as the dates are free, such as walks, free museums, free concerts, etc., it all gets old.
Eventually you are sure to want to be properly courted, where he is paying for dates and treating you like someone worthy of being pursued.
Sadly, the effect of his good looks and charming personality will wear out too.
All of a sudden, those gorgeous blue eyes that initially enamored you to such an extent that you chose to date him despite his jobless status are no longer doing it for you.
Rather, you are caught up on how much you paid for the dinner date you took him out to the night before or the expensive tickets to a local sports game you purchased the previous weekend.
The amount you are spending is adding up, and it’s not like you are wealthy or have an endless amount of money in your bank account.
You are out there working hard to provide for yourself and pay the bills.
It suddenly feels as though you are taking care of this guy like you would a child.
Every single time you have asked him about how the job search is going, he tells you that he is looking, but there is never any sign he is close to getting hired for one.
Unfortunately, this is a potential trajectory of what is in store for you.
Needless to say, it isn’t a good idea to date someone who doesn’t have a job right now unless you want a short-term fling.
A guy who continues to date when he doesn’t have a job is showing in no uncertain terms he prioritizes dating over finding a job.
Meaning, his jobless situation is unlikely to change any time soon.
If you are in search of a long-term relationship, a man with a job is a better choice.