A guy that seems absent, isn’t making an effort to be around you, or talk to you, and this is a strong indication that he doesn’t like you.

It’s elementary for him to tell you what you want to hear.

He believes that in telling you that he likes you, he appeases you.

Words don’t mean anything when they aren’t backed up with action.

No matter what you have heard from people, or what he has told you about liking you, his actions are what matter.

He isn’t setting up dates with you, nor calling you regularly to get to know you.

Basically, he is unavailable to you.

This is when you should use your intuition.

What is it telling you?

Be candid with yourself.

Your intuition is telling you that his absence is an issue.

His absence is treatment you aren’t used to.

Guys who have been romantically interested in you in the past have been far more aggressive in how they pursued you.

They weren’t absent.

They talked to you regularly, asked you out on dates, and showed excitement as they got to know you.

This has been your experience with men who have been romantically interested in you in the past, until this guy.

Take your history into account, and use your intuition.

In general, a guy that is interested in you puts in the work to court you.

He isn’t absent.

He is motivated to court you and get you to like him.

When a guy is absent, he isn’t demonstrating that he has a candid interest in getting you to like him.

No matter what he or any one else has told you about his feelings for you, his actions are the barometer you have to use to determine whether he legitimately likes you.

Guys are the ones who pursue women.

A guy that isn’t taking action to pursue a woman, isn’t romantically interested in her.

This being said, a lack of action doesn’t mean that there isn’t any attraction towards you.

There is a difference between a guy that thinks you are attractive, and a guy that likes you romantically.

There are two variations of attraction.

In one variation, a guy can be attracted to a girl, but not have the desire to pursue her, or take it any further than the occasional conversation or gaze.

In a different variation, a guy can be attracted to a girl, be instantly interested in getting to know her, and takes consistent action to pursue her.

In pursuing her, he is determining whether they have shared interests and personality traits.

He is introducing himself to the girl, and initiating small talk.

He is cracking jokes as he gets to know her.

A guy that is pursuing a girl, has been spurred into action by his attraction for her.

On the contrary, a guy that seems absent isn’t taking consistent action to pursue her.

Although he finds her attractive, he isn’t spurred to take action.

She is eye candy to him.

He likes what he sees, but has no intention of taking it beyond the occasional conversation and lighthearted compliment.

When you like a guy who seems absent, your emotions for him make you susceptible to taking any form of attention from him as a sign that he likes you back.

He doesn’t.

Any occasional form of attention he gives you is about himself.

He wants to see how you react so that he gets an ego boost out of it.

He is empowered by the influence he has over you.

In the end, it’s about him, not you.