The thought about whether it takes a man having to miss a woman to get a better idea of whether he loves her has kept you restless.

There has been a falling out with a guy you had a short-lived relationship with.

Since the breakup, you have been contemplating whether he is going to miss you, and in doing so, associate missing you with loving you.

During your short-lived relationship with him, he struggled to express his feelings to you, and this was frustrating to say the least.

It had you fearful that you were falling for a man who had no idea whether he had feelings for you.

At first, it was somewhat of a relief when the breakup occurred, as you didn’t have to keep worrying about whether he loved you or not.

Since then, you can’t keep lying to yourself about the fact that you care about him.

You do.

He has been on your mind plentifully since the breakup, and you are missing him.

There is a hope that he misses you too, and is finally coming to terms with his feelings and associating missing you with loving you.

As they say, absence making the heart grow fonder.

You want this.

You want him to love you.

Knowing this finally lets you open up to loving him or admitting that you do love him, without playing mental gymnastics around the subject.

I know that what you are now experiencing must feel like you are at an impasse with your feelings.

You want him to have feelings for you, preferably love you.

With each day that passes, you are hoping that he misses you more and more, associating this feeling with love.

Here is the good news.

Since you were in a relationship with him, albeit short-term, there are better odds that he has feelings for you.

Don’t get too excited about this.

It doesn’t mean that he loves you.

Those feelings are often misconstrued as love.

The thing is, on many a occasion, this feeling stems from a sense of loss of you no longer being there.

He was used to you being around, and now you are gone.

And so, it’s natural for him to miss you, and realize that there are feelings involved.

Again, it isn’t necessarily coming from a place of love, but a place of loss.

All hope isn’t lost though.

Loving you isn’t entirely out of the question.

Statistically, men fall in love within 3 months of a relationship.

If your relationship lasted for at least 3 months or more, you are in luck.

Guys have a very high percentage of coming back to or reconnecting with an old partner.

This has a greater likelihood of happening sooner when you don’t contact him first.

Once he contacts and reconnects with you again, there are telltale signs that he loves you.

This is evidenced when he is asking to meet more of your family members and friends, and making plans with you for the future and following through on those plans.

These are core signs that a guy loves you.

In suddenly showing a devotion to get to know those who are close to you, he is indicating that he wants to care about those you care about and get their approval of him too.

In making plans for the future with you and following through on those plans, he is demonstrating that he sees a long-term future with you.

This is love.