You should judge him based on how he is acting around you.
If he seems absent, there is a chance that he doesn’t like you.
It’s easy for people to fall in line and tell you what you want to hear.
They want you to be happy and may feel that by telling you that he likes you, you would feel good about yourself and your situation.
However, at the end of the day, your intuition is one of the best indicators of what your reality really is.
If it seems like he is absent, you are feeling that for a reason.
You know that he isn’t reacting to you the way that you are used to.
Perhaps you have dealt with guys in the past who were a lot more receptive to you than he is.
Perhaps you have talked to guys in the past who seemed a lot more excited when they were talking to you or interacting with you.
Perhaps you have interacted with guys in the past who showed a much stronger desire to get to know you as a person.
Perhaps you have dealt with guys in the past who were constantly communicating with you because they just couldn’t wait to talk to you.
These are all experiences that you have had in the past with guys who liked you.
These experiences have shown you how guys tend to act when they like you.
Experiences aren’t always going to be the same.
However, based on several past experiences, there is typically a measure of similarity that you will notice most guys exhibit when they like you.
If this guy isn’t showing any of that, there is a good chance that he doesn’t like you the way everyone is saying he does.
It doesn’t mean that there isn’t any attraction there.
However, there is a difference between attraction and truly liking someone.
A person can be attracted to someone else but not have the desire to pursue that other person or take it any further than merely looking at them.
On the flip side, a person can like someone else and instantly start finding ways to identify with that person and find similarities.
They start wondering about what that person is like as an individual and whether they share any of the same personality traits.
They start making real attempts to get to know the other.
They introduce themselves.
They initiate small talk.
They crack jokes.
This person has taken things beyond attraction.
This person is actually taking real action because they like the other to the level that they want to get to know them.
If this guy seems absent, he may be attracted to you but he may not actually like you.
If he liked you, he would take solid steps to move things forward.
Now, if he is a shy guy, he may not be so bold.
However, you would still get a sense of how much he liked you through his body language.
It wouldn’t seem like he is absent. It would seem more like he is present but he is just nervous.
If this guy that everyone is telling you likes you seems absent to you, he probably is.
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