The dating profile photo was misleading.

She is less heavy in that photo.

Upon seeing her at the first date, you instantly realized that she was significantly heavier than what she looked like in her dating profile photo.

It was an immediate downer to the first date.

Although conversation went well, you struggled to get over the fact that she was overweight and much heavier than what she looked like in her dating profile photo.

She looked nothing like her dating profile photo and you almost couldn’t wait to get out of there.

The goodbyes were pleasant enough, but as you walked into the parking lot to leave, you knew that you had no intention of seeing her again.

I totally empathize with you.

If it is any consolation, you aren’t the only one who has met a match who looked nothing like their dating profile photo.

Many have been in your position before and many will be in the future.

Here is the thing.

She is fully aware that she doesn’t look like her dating profile photo.

She knows that she is much heavier in life than she is letting on in her dating profile photo.

People like this are selfish.

In using a misrepresentative dating profile photo, she was hoping to attract matches.

Her strategy was to use a misrepresentative dating profile photo to get you to match with her, chat with her, like her personality, and ask her out.

By this point, she is hoping that you like her personality enough that you won’t care that much that she is significantly heavier in person than what she looks like in her dating profile photo.

Unfortunately, this is a common mentality among people who use this deceitful tactic on a dating app.

I know that it is disheartening for you, but there is a strategy to offset this.

Get into the routine of asking to do a video chat with a match before meeting in person.

Even if you aren’t enthusiastic about doing video chats, strongly consider doing them.

Doing a video chat with every match you hit it off with and hope to ask out on a date in the foreseeable future, saves you the heartache of meeting said match in person, and realizing that she looks nothing like her dating profile photo.

This means that you have to get into a routine of moving a conversation with a match away from a dating app within a fair amount of time.

Once a few messages have been exchanged on a dating app, and a decent amount of rapport has been established, ask a match to do a video chat.

A match who has an issue with this isn’t worth your time.

There is nothing wrong with requesting a video chat, and any match who refuses to do it with you is someone you can filter out of your interest pool.

Some guys fall into a trap when they let a match constantly give them the run around, permitting her to keep postponing a planned video chat.

This alone is enough to warrant an unmatching.

Value your time.

People who misrepresent themselves on dating apps are a waste of your time.

Always ask for a video chat.

Bar none.