Although you have a biological child, you weren’t involved in raising him.

Whenever you date someone, the question of whether you have a kid always comes up, and it always has you deliberating about how to respond.

When you have never met this kid, nor had any role in raising him, this question leaves you at a crossroads on how to answer it.

Should you bring up that you have a kid if he’s not in your life at all?

You should.

Although you aren’t in his life at all and have never met him, none of this changes the fact that you do have a biological kid.

It’s a smart thing to let anyone you are getting serious about dating know about the situation.

Although you have never met this kid, it doesn’t mean that there won’t be a moment when he comes into your life in some fashion.

Imagine having been in a serious relationship with a woman for years, and never having told her that you had a kid, just to have her learn about it out of the blue.

This happens in various ways.

She receives a message on social media in relation to it, or she is told about it by someone in your family, or this kid shows up at your front door.

She won’t be happy that you never let her know about this kid.

This strains your relationship with your partner, as she now questions what else you have been hiding from her.

Additionally, should this kid show up in your lives demanding his birthright, or to get a piece of your combined fortune, your partner won’t be happy either.

You are better off telling anyone you are getting serious with about this kid.

It doesn’t matter that you had no part in raising him.

He is still your biological child.

This means that there is a likelihood he comes into your life at a future date.

A girlfriend or wife who is blindsided by this, gives her cause to divorce or break up with you.

Never let it get this far.

Although a part of you doesn’t believe it is necessary to let a future partner know about this kid, there is a part of you that worries about what omitting this information does to a relationship with said future partner.

The hesitation about revealing this information has much to do with the fear of what you would look like, if you were to tell her that you have a kid that you have never met, and didn’t have a role in raising.

It doesn’t matter.

The most important thing is that you are honest about your past.

There is no foundation of trust in a relationship when you aren’t candid about your past.

Candidness establishes trust.

It is how you build a strong foundation in a relationship.

Cover your bases.

Letting her know about this child keeps you from the constant fear that she is destined to find out in the future, which keeps you from jeopardizing your relationship with her.