A personal trainer is naturally worried about the prospect of approaching a dating prospect at his place of work, the gym.
He doesn’t want to look like he is intent on dating customers at the gym.
There are cameras everywhere at a gym.
If he approaches the same woman too frequently who isn’t currently a client of his, he is risking a call to the office upstairs and getting a warning.
There is a reason why you believe he likes you.
You have seen him looking at you from a distance.
His eyes have been on you when you weren’t looking.
This isn’t your first rodeo.
You know what to look for when it comes to attraction and have no doubt that he stares at you from a distance.
At the outset, it was exciting.
He is attractive.
Obviously, being a personal trainer, his body looks great.
The excitement you initially felt whenever you would catch him staring at you from a distance has since worn thin.
It has been months and he hasn’t approached you.
It’s not like you have gone out of your way to look unapproachable either.
You are nice to people you see at the gym, smiling as you engage in small talk with a few of them.
Physically, you look good too.
Never disheveled, you take pride in how you present yourself at the gym.
The hair is tied up neatly and you dress the part.
Over time, as you have caught him looking at you from a distance, you hold eye contact, but he doesn’t maintain it.
He looks away quickly.
It seems like an oxymoron.
Here is this strong muscular personal trainer, and yet, he is too shy to maintain eye contact and follow that up with approaching you.
You are about ready to give up on this, being that it has been months of this and nothing you have done has worked.
Don’t give up quite yet.
He is a personal trainer who is most likely fearful of the implications of approaching you at his place of work, the gym.
You are better off meeting him in an environment outside of work.
Hire a female personal trainer at the gym.
Build a friendly relationship with her as she trains you in subsequent weeks.
In time, as you participate in small talk with her, she is going to talk about her fellow personal trainers.
He is one of those personal trainers.
Soon, an opening presents itself.
She tells you about where she hangs out with her fellow personal trainers to unwind from work and what days they do it.
This is your opening.
Send her a text on the day letting her know that you are going to check out the place with a few of your friends and whether she will be there with her fellow personal trainers.
She responds, letting you know she will be there with her fellow personal trainers.
By now, you have already befriended your female personal trainer, which means that she will be happy to introduce you to her fellow personal trainer friends upon your arrival.
He is one of them.
Finally, there he is, outside of the workplace.
From here, he gets to talk to you with much greater freedom, outside his workplace.
Be your charming self as you talk to him.
Laugh at his jokes, including the unfunny ones.
This gives him confidence in knowing that you find him entertaining and interesting.
If he doesn’t ask to exchange contact information by the end of the night, offer him yours.
From here, the ball is in his court to contact you and ask you out on a proper date.
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