He may not look at his relationship with you as one that should lead to romance.
If you have been talking to this guy for a year and a half and you are still not together, it could be because he looks at your relationship with him in a totally different way from the way you have been looking at it.
Perhaps he has said a lot of sweet things to you in the last year and a half that has made you feel that he cares about you in a romantic way.
Perhaps he has even flirted with you on occasion or quite frequently.
Perhaps you have both been intimate multiple times.
Perhaps he has introduced you to his family and friends.
True, it is easy to look at all of these acts and assume that your relationship with him is moving towards romance.
However, it is important to understand that there are some guys who can do all of this and still not want to actually be in a romantic relationship.
It is a lot easier for them to do all these things knowing that they don’t have to commit to you than to do it knowing that they do.
For them, they feel like they can exercise their freedom when they don’t commit. However, they also know that they can act like a boyfriend would and do all these nice things for you.
They get to have the best of both worlds.
They can do the kind of things that a boyfriend would do but they also know that they can easily retreat without having to deal with fulfilling your emotional needs if the time came for that.
One of the reasons why some guys act this way is because they may have had past relationship experiences that left them very hurt or fearful.
They may be worried that if they were to fully commit to a girl, they would be allowing themselves to become vulnerable to hurt once again.
If he was in a previous relationship with someone that he really cared about who didn’t return his affection, he may have questioned his value and his self-worth.
This may have taken a big toll on him over time.
More of a toll than he has ever acknowledged.
When he meets you, he tries to hide the fact that he is terrified of commitment.
Perhaps he tells himself that he isn’t.
Perhaps he tries to convince himself that what is in the past is in the past and he has moved on.
Hence, he begins to interact with you.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t take long before he realizes that he is actually not healed.
He is still emotionally scarred from that previous relationship experience.
His realization of this terrifies him but he doesn’t tell you about it.
He just goes on.
He may continue trying to convince himself that he will change but unfortunately he doesn’t.
Hence, you have a guy who won’t be with you after a year and a half because he is still dealing with the negative effects of a past relationship.
He can’t get over his past.
He just believes that he will fail once again and thereby, he tries to play it safe by not committing.
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