As long as you have been communicating on a regular basis and have identified the problems that have been occurring, there is still a shot and there is hope.
In this case, getting together and fixing those problems as a team is the appropriate approach.
This being said, a relationship that has been primarily overwhelmed with arguments has less of a shot.
The healthy strategy is to communicate and pinpoint the areas of contention in your relationship.
That being done, there must be dual eagerness to remedy those issues together for a relationship to work.
A strong degree of humility and objectivity is so vital in these moments.
When you come to each other and acknowledge where you mutually went wrong, instead of believing that one party was to blame for all of this, you have a much better shot at saving your relationship with this guy.
Being humble enough to grasp this, and being objective enough to take your emotions out of the equation, and focus on doing what is required to make a relationship work is the right strategy.
You won’t have a shot when you are all about playing the victim.
If all you believe is that you were the one who was done wrong, and that you are owed an apology, you only exacerbate the situation, decreasing the odds of making the relationship work.
Never play the victim, even though every fiber of your being believes that you are.
This is where being objective about this whole ordeal becomes so critical.
When you are objective, you are capable of looking back on your relationship with this guy, almost as though you are outside the situation looking in.
In these moments, you get to pinpoint or locate moments during your relationship where you weren’t forthright.
There were moments where you perceived that there was a problem, but you never spoke up at that time.
You never voiced your opinion or disagreement in a healthy and cogent fashion.
As a consequence, the problem persisted without being addressed and it developed to a much bigger problem.
Even though you believe that you are innocent in all of this, the fact that you never addressed the issue when it first arose, is a failure on your part.
This is where you failed to do your job as a partner in communicating.
Communication is key.
When you choose not to communicate properly, and eschew addressing an issue, or get yourself so upset, you make an excuse not to address it, you are only making that issue that much stronger.
You still have a shot when there is a mutual desire to communicate and address the issues in an objective and humble manner.
Once you follow this up with action to remedy the issues, you have the best shot at saving this relationship.
An additional benefit to this is that it makes you equipped with the know-how to fix problematic issues that arise in your relationship in the future.
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