Ask yourself why you are thinking about this in the first place.
Leaving your boyfriend may seem like the right thing to do at first because of how emotional you feel right now.
However, you shouldn’t act too brashly without thinking things through.
Acting too brashly may be when your emotions have gotten the best of you.
You shouldn’t allow your emotions to get the best of you.
Doing this may ultimately lead to regret as you look back on your decision to leave your boyfriend.
So, simply take a step back right now and ask yourself why you are wondering whether you should leave your boyfriend.
If you feel like your needs aren’t being met, you need to determine what those needs are.
Do you feel like he just doesn’t care about what you want and only cares about what tends to satisfy him?
If that is the case, have you let him know about this?
Perhaps he has always been the taker and doesn’t know much else. By letting him know how you feel about this, you may be able to course correct.
Do you feel like he tends to put other people before you and give them a lot more attention?
If this is the case, you should think about how much attention you are truly demanding.
Is it too much?
How often does he actually interact with you during the course of a week?
If he is spending a decent amount of time with you, he may be doing it right.
However, if you feel like the amount of time and attention he spends on you simply isn’t enough, you may be acting in an unreasonable way.
Remember that he does have a life and other responsibilities.
Thereby, he simply can’t give you all of his attention all the time.
There will have to be a part of you that understands this and is willing to compromise.
On the flip side, if he is indeed not giving you much of his time and it always feels like you are the one who initiates dates or conversation, you may be better off leaving him.
You should only come to this conclusion after truly reflecting on how he has behaved throughout the course of your relationship.
You shouldn’t merely come to this conclusion based on what has been happening recently.
If he hasn’t been giving you as much attention as you want recently, it may be for a valid reason.
You should find out what that reason is before taking any brash action to leave him.
Use his history with you as a guide.
If he was more attentive with you earlier on in the relationship, there may truly be a valid reason why he isn’t that way now.
Finding out what that reason is could help to course correct your relationship.
With this being said, you also have to determine whether you are just bored with the relationship.
You may simply want to move on because you feel that he has given you what he has and there is no more mystery to keep you interested.
If this is the case, be honest with yourself about it. However, do understand that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
In other words, you may leave him to try someone new only to realize that you actually miss him.
By then, it may be too late to get him back.
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