The length of time you should know someone before getting into a romantic relationship with them is really dependent on the nature of the relationship and how the both of you have been interacting.
You shouldn’t contemplate this with a timetable in mind as this can be so detrimental to the ultimate goal of what you may want for the relationship.
Your intent should simply be to allow the process of getting to know each other unfold in a natural way.
Putting a deadline or a range of time on it is a mistake.
You can get so involved in the length of time that you forget to focus on building rapport.
You should focus on getting to know this person and allowing yourself to assess how things are going in a non-pressure way.
As you learn more about this person by learning their interests and dreams, you will be able to ascertain whether those mesh with your own.
You will have an opportunity to allow yourself to process what may or not be there.
Your true feelings will show if you simply allow them to manifest on their own without you trying to push it in one direction or another.
Forcing your feelings to unfold in one way or the other is a huge error.
It makes you feel the pressure of time that you have imposed on yourself because you are wondering when to get into a romantic relationship.
As a result, you force a feeling that may or may not be there.
A romantic relationship will unfold naturally if your interaction with this person is natural and honest.
Your open-mindedness is what you need the most here.
The open-mindedness to let things happen the way they should.
It can be easy to cave under pressure because you are being told that you should do this or that by either yourself or friends and family.
That shouldn’t influence you.
Let this interaction develop and come to its conclusion naturally.
This is the best way to know someone and allow that relationship to lead to something more if that emotion is truly there.
Trying to force the interaction toward a romantic relationship prematurely would only lead you into something that doesn’t last.
You may ultimately get out of that forced romantic relationship damaged emotionally because you wanted it to work out so bad and yet you couldn’t.
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