It is possible to forgive a partner who has cheated.
There have been many relationships that have recovered from infidelity and gone on to become successful.
It depends on your partner’s character and their tendency to repeat.
When your partner has a pattern of cheating, it is next to impossible to move on from this.
This is when cheating becomes more of a personality trait than abnormal behavior that is out of character.
On the flip side, if your partner cheated on you after being in a heated argument with you, this is considered out of the ordinary when they have never had a history of cheating on you.
It doesn’t excuse the fact that they cheated.
They are responsible for their actions.
They never had a history of doing it until that argument occurred.
Normally, a partner acting in this way is reacting without thinking things through.
They are so upset with you that they decide to hurt you back by cheating on you.
It is sad but true.
The rational part of the brain tends to take a backseat when it comes to reacting to heated arguments.
As human beings, we get selfish.
In these moments, we consider ourselves to be the victims.
We have been done wrong. Our partner is the bad guy.
As a result, your partner acts out what they are feeling to get back at you and show themselves they matter.
This is when cheating takes on a whole other meaning.
It wasn’t done out of boredom with the relationship or for want of sexual gratification, it was done to get back at a partner or even things out.
Again, your cheating partner is responsible for their actions.
Blaming it all on emotion resulting from an argument doesn’t absolve them from their responsibility.
In a scenario like this, specifically with a partner who has never cheated before, you find deductive reasoning that leads you to believe that there is course to try again and put this incident behind you.
This is especially true with a partner who told you about the cheating incident soon after it happened and you didn’t find out through secondary means.
This indicates your partner felt guilt after the cheating incident and was owning up to what they did, and facing the consequences, in lieu of trying to hide it from you.
When your partner has cheated on you in the past and has a history of cheating in previous relationships, it is unlikely that your relationship can move on from here.
You already knew about your partner’s history but believed that it would be different with you.
You believed there was a connection there that could never be violated.
Somehow, your relationship was going to be the one that wouldn’t fall prey to infidelity.
You made yourself believe this.
But now, the unthinkable has happened.
Your partner has cheated on you just like they cheated on previous partners.
This is when you have to be assertive and use your common sense.
A repeat offender is not going to change.
You should end your relationship with a repeat offender and move on out of this relationship.
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