You are acting annoyed around him as a tactic to keep yourself from giving into how you candidly feel about him.
You think you like him.
If he is constantly in your thoughts whenever he is not around, you do like him.
Now, you have to come to terms with why you are so hesitant to let your guard down with him and be courteous or polite around him.
You worry he wouldn’t like you back.
You are thinking he has other girls that he is talking to and you don’t want to be just another number.
You believe that in taking a chance on opening up to him and being civil, he takes that as a sign of weakness and use it against you.
These are all emotions or lines of thinking that must be dealt with and understood.
There is a reason why you act annoyed around him.
Listen, the more you do this, the less open he is to talking to you or getting to know you.
If you like him, is this what you want?
Would you rather watch him date someone else, having lost out on account of your stubbornness in refusing to smile or in demonstrating an openness to being approached.
Seeing him dating someone else won’t leave you unscathed.
Although you try to make yourself feel better by telling yourself that the girl isn’t as attractive as you are or you can do better than him, you are left upset and full of judgment.
You are lying to yourself.
Would you rather he continued ignoring you or stay annoyed at you to reinforce your line of thinking about him being a jerk?
Well, how do you know that?
He could be a lot sweeter than what you have observed.
Who’s to say he hasn’t been acting like he has so as to defend his own pride and emotions too?
He believes he must have done something to you in the past that led to you acting so negatively towards him.
As a result, he does his best to avoid you, not so much because he wants to but to avoid getting in your way.
He is asking his friends about why you hate him so much right this moment.
He is figuring that out while replaying past moments in his head, intent on pinpointing where he crossed your path and upset you.
All of this leaves him anxious and hesitant about how he should behave around you.
You see what is happening here?
He is reacting to what you are doing, negatively influenced by your behavior and consumed with uncertainty.
The funny thing is that the moment you say, “Hello,” you could completely change the dynamic of what has been going on.
You come to realize he is not that bad of a guy after all.
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