Words can be very powerful. However, you shouldn’t let them rule or determine how you feel about yourself.
Human beings can be naturally cruel to one another. This is part of our nature.
If he said something to you that was cruel, you shouldn’t give those words any power. When you give those words power, you allow them to affect your psyche and consequently your entire well being.
You need to understand that he has his opinion and that is his alone.
He may have even used those words with the intention of hurting you and not truly believed in them.
If you allow the words to hurt you, you may be feeding into what he wants. You will essentially give him the power. This is a very dangerous place to be in because he will know how to manipulate you in the future.
He knows that by simply saying certain words, he can get you to react in the way he wants.
This will give him a level of power that could cause a profound imbalance in your relationship.
It truly makes you vulnerable.
You may find yourself doing things for him that you shouldn’t, simply because you are trying to win his approval.
He notices this and decides to continue doing what he is doing because he likes the kind of power that it gives him.
Remember, whatever he told you is his opinion. You have a right to have yours. Why would his opinion carry more weight or relevance over your own?
This is your life after all. You should live it within the parameters of what makes you happy and comfortable. You can’t live your life for someone else. You can’t live your life in a manner that is designed to make someone else happy or be in approval of you.
That wouldn’t be living your life would it? That would be like living as a robot. That is no life.
You have to come to terms with this. You have to come to terms with the fact that this is your life and you have to live it in the way that works best for you.
You are the one who gets to look at yourself in the mirror each day. You are the only one who can live your life. No one else can live it for you.
If there is something about yourself that you don’t like and believe needs to be improved upon, you can choose to do that based on your own desire to improve.
It should be based on what you want. It shouldn’t be based on how someone else is making you feel about it.
If you based your actions on what someone else felt, it would never end. You may change something just to win their approval only to have them disapprove of something else. You may change that as well. However, it is not enough. They now disapprove of something new.
You will now find yourself in an endless cycle that could make you miserable.
If you want to change something about yourself, do so for you and no one else.
If you are happy with yourself, accept that and live your life in abundance.
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