You should do what feels right after you have had a period of strong reflection.
If you are thinking about whether you should leave him, there is a reason.
You have to figure out what that reason is.
This shouldn’t be done lightly.
Try not to allow your emotions to get the best of you.
This is typically where people in your situation fail.
They get too caught up in how they currently feel and act prematurely.
By the time they realize that they made a mistake, it is too late.
Do consider what has been going on in the relationship.
Have there been a lot of arguments that never get resolved in the relationship?
Has there been infidelity?
These are all very important questions that you need to ask yourself before coming to a decision on whether to leave him or not.
If you tend to have a lot of arguments in this relationship, there is an underlying reason.
There is something that you are not addressing in the relationship that is leading to these arguments.
Someone in the relationship may be holding on to a drudge of some sort.
Someone may feel like they aren’t being given the respect or attention they deserve.
Someone may feel like there is too much unpredictability in the relationship and may want something more stable.
Someone may feel like outside relationships or influences are causing a strain on the dynamics of the relationship.
There may be a multitude of reasons for these arguments.
You have to determine what they were.
If you are able to determine that, how well do you believe that those reasons can be resolved?
If you believe that they can, you may want to consider trying to make things work.
Your partner would have to be a willing participant in order for this to work.
This is how you can begin to put an end to the arguments.
You put an end to them once you have determined the root cause and are both equally willing to fix them.
If there has been infidelity in the relationship, you have to come to terms with that.
You will have to determine just how much you are willing to take or forgive.
If you were the one who committed the infidelity, you have to determine why.
You may have done so out of a rush of anger at your partner or out of something more precise.
You may indeed no longer feel a real sense of physical compatibility with your partner.
If your partner was the one who committed the infidelity, they may be thinking in the same way.
However, if the infidelity was caused out of a spontaneous reaction to something that may have occurred between you, that should be taken into account as well.
You would have to figure out if this is something that you can forgive.
You would have to determine if your partner is indeed the type to repeat this sort of action.
You would also have to consider whether you could even handle being around your partner after having learned about their infidelity.
No matter how much you tell yourself that you can handle it, you probably can’t.
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