You were nervous on your first few dates with this person.
It is natural that you would think back to those first few dates and believe that you came across as a person who is unlike who you really are.
This does happen as two people begin to go out on dates.
There is a reason for it.
You are worried about coming off the wrong way, so you act a little bit more constrained.
You are worried that if you were to be yourself, being as funny and outgoing as you typically are, it would be too much for your date.
So, you are more constrained and less energetic.
This is not really who you are as a person but it is the message you conveyed on those first few dates.
This isn’t a deal breaker though.
If the person you are dating has already been on several dates with you, they are obviously finding something about you that is appealing.
Start trusting in that.
They have been on a few dates with you.
This is usually a good sign.
Get into the habit of letting the dates lead to their natural destination.
When your date asks you about something that you are passionate about, don’t be afraid to be more descriptive as time goes on.
This is especially true when your date has brought up that specific question or topic on each of your dates.
This means that they know that you are holding back and they want to know more.
Once you notice this pattern, you should look at that as a sign that you can open yourself up to the topic.
If you have been restraining yourself up until this point, worried about being too much too soon, you don’t have to worry about that in this instance.
Your date is showing you that they want you to get animated about this topic, sensing from past dates that this is a topic you do care about.
Something else you should understand is that not every dating couple is going to hit it off right from the start.
In fact, it is not always a bad idea to be somewhat cautious in the beginning.
You get carried away by something that your date said and totally misinterpret it when you are too intent on making it work.
When you are somewhat contained and steady with your emotions, it is easier for you to think things through before you react.
This is not always a bad thing.
It gives you the opportunity to get to assess what is being said without drawing too many conclusions about it.
When you believe you haven’t been yourself in these dates, much of that has to do with how you process what is happening.
As you think back on the dates, you unearth moments where you believe a connection was made.
In subsequent dates, you get to reconnect when you hear those topics brought up again.
As long as you keep interacting and going out on future dates, inevitably there is a moment when everything seems to come together and flow.
You will know when that is, as long as you let it happen naturally.
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