You may have been nervous on your first few dates with this person.
It is natural that you would think back to those first few dates and believe that you came across as a person who is unlike who you really are.
Understand that this does happen quite often as two people begin to go on dates.
There is a reason for it.
You may be worried that you will come off the wrong way, so you may act a little bit more constrained.
You may be worried that if you were to be yourself and be as funny and as outgoing as you typically are, it may be too much for your date.
So, you are more constrained and less energetic.
This is not really who you are as a person but it is the message you conveyed on those first few dates.
This may not necessarily be a deal breaker though.
If the person you are dating has already been on several dates with you, they are obviously finding something about you that is appealing.
You need to start trusting in that.
They have been on a few dates with you.
This is usually a good sign.
What you should be more focused on is in allowing yourself to let the dates lead where they may.
If your date were to ask you about something that you are passionate about, don’t be afraid to be more descriptive as time goes on.
This is especially true if you notice that your date has brought up that particular question or topic on each of your dates.
This typically means that they know that you may be holding back and they want to know more.
Once you notice this pattern, you should look at that as a sign that you can really begin to open yourself up to the topic.
If you have been restraining yourself up until this point because you were worried about being too much too soon, you don’t have to worry about that in this instance.
Your date is showing you that they want you to really become animated about this topic because they have sensed from dates past that this is a topic you do care about.
Something else you should understand is that not every dating couple is going to hit it off right from the start.
In fact, it is not always a bad idea to be somewhat cautious in the beginning.
You may get carried away by something that your date said and totally misinterpret it when you are too intent on making it work.
When you are actually somewhat contained and steady with your emotions, it will be easier for you to think things through before you react.
This is not always a bad thing.
It gives you the opportunity to really get to assess what is being said without drawing too many conclusions about it.
If you believe that you haven’t been yourself in these dates, it may be because you are allowing yourself to process what is happening.
Outside of the date and as you think back on them, you are able to find moments where you believe there was a connection.
In subsequent dates, you may be able to find ways to reconnect when you hear those topics brought up again.
As long as you keep interacting and going out on future dates, there will most likely be a point when everything just seems to come together and flow.
You will know when that is.
Just let it happen naturally.
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