Did He Ever Like Me?

Did He Ever Like Me?

He may have liked you.

However, there is no guarantee that something like this can always last.

There are some people who like and like really hard in the beginning.

However, they quickly lose interest as soon as they get used to you, they know what to expect from you or someone better comes along.

It can be very difficult to accept that a guy who seemed so into you or who typically spoke the right words to you could suddenly not like you.

It may make you wonder if he truly ever liked you or whether it was all an act from the start.

The thing is, there is no true way to definitively know what a person is truly feeling.

A person can cover it up with all kinds of insincerity.

They could also trick themselves into believing that they are into someone a lot more than they actually are.

Indeed, some guys may make themselves believe that there is something more to a relationship or romance with a girl when in fact there isn’t.

They may not always be aware that they are doing this.

Perhaps they find the girl so attractive and alluring that they simply can’t bring themselves to believe that they are no longer feeling that initial euphoria or enthusiasm.

However, this loss of enthusiasm does happen.

It can be easy to get caught up in the moment.

Sometimes it can be as deceiving as simply giving in to the other person’s energy and interest.

A guy mimics your energy because he simply feels like he is supposed to.

Your energy may even be somewhat infectious.

The guy makes himself believe that he is experiencing this process in an authentic manner and his emotions are real.

However, he ultimately discovers that he was simply drawn in by his initial sense of excitement of being around you and romancing you.

As that initial excitement has waned, he has now run out of gas so to speak.

All of a sudden, he doesn’t communicate as much or isn’t asking you out on dates.

He got caught up in his initial sense of euphoria and in the energy that you were giving off.

Oftentimes, a guy comes to this realization because of a loss of chemistry.

You may not even have noticed that your chemistry with this guy was waning.

However, there were signs that it was.

He was no longer as excited to talk to you.

His flirtation was barely registering because he just couldn’t seem to match your wit.

He wasn’t remembering previous conversations that you had both had.

The signs may have been evident before he left you but you just didn’t acknowledge them.

This kind of lack of enthusiasm does happen to lots of people who date or romance someone else.

It isn’t necessarily your fault that it happens.

A guy can simply realize that he just isn’t feeling it anymore and decide to move on.

You didn’t necessarily do anything wrong.

You were yourself and were consistent in your demeanor.

It mostly comes down to compatibility.

You just weren’t compatible with him.

You can find that compatibility with someone else as long as you don’t allow this incident to make you bitter.

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2 thoughts on “Did He Ever Like Me?”

  1. Hi,
    I have a quick question I need some advice on. There was this guy who was in my chemistry class last year. We had a moment. We stared deeply into each other’s eyes I got so embarrassed I looked away. But he kept staring then went back to his work. Throughout the semester, he would look at me or I would look at him. This one day he came up to me and tapped my desk and look at me. I looked up at stared at him then he smirked and looked back then taped another girl’s desk and walked away. One time his friend caught him staring at me and asked him why he was staring and he said he was day dreaming. So next year we are in a new grade and we have no classes. Sometimes I would stare at him in the hallways and he would do the same or look down as he passes me. This one time in the hallway we were staring at each other in the hallway then he looked away then his friend started staring at me. It sorta creeped me out. Sometimes when I am walking in the hallway with other guys I will notice he would stare at me. My friends know I find him attractive but they constantly tell me I could do better cause they had bad past experiences with the guy. Some days when I would I wear a dres he would look at me. I don’t know what is going. We never talked to each other before so I don’t know:Can you tell me what is going on in the situation? What is going on in his head? What I should do?

  2. Hi Laura,

    What may be going on in his head may be that he is attracted to you but isn’t quite ready to make a move on you.

    There may be something that is stopping him.

    Perhaps he has a girlfriend or he isn’t entirely sure about how you feel about him.

    Something you could do is try smiling at him the next time you both stare at each other.

    He may not necessarily make a move on you at that instance but he may be more emboldened to do it the next time he sees you because of your positive feedback.

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