You are not wrong for wanting your boyfriend to visit your country.
He is your boyfriend after all.
It would be natural to want him to visit your country because you would want to show him more about you and what you are all about.
You would want to show him the sights and share those experiences with him.
You would want to show him places that mean a lot to you.
You would want to share your culture with him because he is someone that you have connected with on an emotional level.
You would want to introduce him to your friends and family.
This may be a big part of finally taking the relationship to the next level.
When a significant other has been introduced to those that you care about in your life, it has a way of making your relationship that much more authentic.
Bearing all this in mind, it is understandable that you would want your boyfriend to visit your country.
If this is something that you have been asking him to do for a while and he has continuously told you that he would but keeps breaking his word, there is a problem.
Now, you would also have to consider your boyfriend’s current circumstances.
If he is going through a really difficult time with his own family or is in a financial bind, he may be unable to make the visit at this time.
Family emergencies and financial problems do occur and your boyfriend may be very preoccupied in dealing with them in both a mental and realistic sense.
If he is having family emergencies, you should be patient and supportive until they subside.
If it is a financial issue, you can offer to pay for his ticket to visit your country.
You can also offer free or very affordable accommodation when he arrives.
If he shows resistance to this idea, you could tell him to simply return the favor when you visit his country in the future.
However, if you do know that your boyfriend is available and financially stable and yet he continues to break his commitment to visit your country, he may be showing you that he isn’t quite ready to take this relationship to the next level.
He knows what visiting your country would signify.
He knows that he is going to get exposed to your culture.
He is going to partake in experiences with you that have meaning to you.
He also knows that he will most likely meet those who are close to you like family and friends.
There may be a part of him that is simply not ready for that.
The long distance that you both share may seem like an impediment but to him it may actually be a safety net.
He may be comfortable with this long distance and may not wish to breach it at this time.
He knows that breaching it would be acknowledging that the relationship may be on a level that he isn’t either ready for at this time or may never be ready for.
This is why it is important to talk to your boyfriend about this.
You shouldn’t accept any talk but real talk.
He has to get real with you about how he truly feels about your relationship and where he wants it to go.
If he has had failed relationships in the past where he avoided these kind of visits, you may have to use those relationships as your guide.
This may be all you need to realize that your boyfriend may not want to get serious with you.
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