You are not wrong for wanting your boyfriend to visit your country.
He is your boyfriend after all.
It is natural to want him to visit your country, wanting to show him a greater perspective about you and what you are all about.
You want to show him the sights and share those experiences with him.
The thought of showing him places that mean a lot to you has you excited.
Sharing your culture with him is how you demonstrate you have connected with him on a deeper basis emotionally.
You are excited about introducing him to your friends and family.
This takes the relationship to the next level.
Introducing a significant other to those you care about in your life has a way of making your relationship feel that much more authentic.
Bearing all this in mind, it is justifiable that you want your boyfriend to visit your country.
When this is something you have been asking him to do for a while and he has continuously told you that he will, but keeps breaking his word, there is a problem.
Consider your boyfriend’s current circumstances.
A guy who is going through a rough time with his own family or is in a financial bind, has a hard time visiting a girlfriend at this time.
Family emergencies and financial problems do occur and your boyfriend could be preoccupied in contending with them in a mental and realistic sense.
Should he be going through family emergencies, be patient and supportive until they subside.
A financial issue on his end gives you an opening to offer to pay for his ticket to visit your country.
You can also offer free or very affordable accommodation when he arrives.
Resistance to this idea can be rebutted by telling him to return the favor when you visit his country in the future.
Nevertheless, if you do know that your boyfriend is available and financially stable and yet he continues to break his commitment to visit your country, he is showing you that he isn’t ready to take this relationship to the next level.
He knows what visiting your country signifies.
It is getting exposed to your culture and partaking in experiences with you that have meaning to you.
He is going to meet those who are close to you such as family and friends.
There is a part of him that isn’t ready for that.
The long distance that you share seems like an impediment but to him it is a safety net.
He is complacent with this long distance and doesn’t wish to breach it at this time.
He knows that breaching it is acknowledging that the relationship is on a level that he isn’t either ready for at this time or will never be ready for.
This is why it is important to talk to your boyfriend about this.
You shouldn’t accept any talk but real talk.
He has to get real with you about how he truly feels about your relationship and where he wants it to go.
A history of failed relationships in the past where he avoided these kind of visits is something to strongly take heed of and use as your guide.
This is all you need to realize that your boyfriend doesn’t want to get serious with you.
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