Think about why you want him in your life.
What is your end game if he doesn’t want a relationship but you still want him in your life?
Are you of the frame of mind that he could change his mind or are you hoping that the two of you remain platonic friends?
These two get confused.
You make yourself believe that all you want is to be friends with him, when in fact, there is a part of you that hopes he comes around to wanting to date you.
Know where you stand before moving further.
Let’s assume that you still want him in your life as a friend.
In this scenario, how close do you want him to be to you?
Do you want to talk to him everyday and keep him in the loop with everything that is going on in your life?
Do you want a friendship where he is close enough to remember important days like your birthday, or distant enough that you use him as a filler, someone you ask to go to random events with, when your other friends aren’t available?
What kind of friend is he?
Here is the thing.
The danger here is that you let yourself to get so close to him as a friend that all of those romantic feelings reoccur.
The closer he gets to you, the more you want to share your life with him and have him acknowledge you.
This friendship begins to move into something more.
All of a sudden, you are into him again and feel like you want to be in a romantic relationship with him even more than before.
This is why all of this gets so tricky and complicated.
In keeping him in your life as a supposed platonic friend, you run the risk of getting too close to him emotionally, which makes you susceptible to falling for him all over again.
Know where you stand and what you can handle.
To keep him in your life as a platonic friend, you are better off not letting yourself get too close to him earlier on.
He doesn’t have to be involved in your everyday life or daily decisions.
You don’t have to text or call him everyday and expect the same in a return.
In these early stages where your emotions are relatively entangled, keep him at a relative distance as a platonic friend.
Communicate on occasion but not so frequently.
Perhaps you could even relegate the bulk of your communication to social media instead of via phone in order to maintain some distance.
As time goes on and your emotions calm down, you can do more with him as a platonic friend.
While having him as a platonic friend, you could come to realize that this suits you a lot better.
Even though you liked him romantically in the past, it is best that you let go of that notion and look at this person as a platonic friend instead.
Not everyone is a romantic match.
This perception opens you up to connecting with a better romantic match in the future.
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