Many people get into romantic relationships this way and are often taken by surprise that the relationship changed in this way.
They were friends initially but somewhere down the road they realized that they had developed romantic feelings for each other.
This is very common.
However, if you are in a situation where you are friends with someone, you shouldn’t rely on the hope that the both of you will ultimately become lovers.
The truth of the matter is that the majority of platonic relationships stay platonic.
This is especially true the longer the platonic relationship lasts.
There is something called the “friend zone.”
This is when someone puts you in a category.
When you are in the “friend zone” category, it typically means that you are going to be seen as a friend to this person for the most part.
It is very difficult to get out of this category when you have been put into it.
This is typically due to the fact that the person looks at you in a different way.
Since they are looking at you as a friend, they will not have romantic ideas about you.
It would feel very uncomfortable and even creepy if they were to think about you in this sense.
Thereby, they will keep you in the friend category because it is easier and just feels more natural.
Now, if there is someone that you like that you want to be more than friends with, you should simply let them know.
You have a better chance of success if you haven’t been in a friendship with this person for too long.
However, your intent should be to let them know about how you feel about them as soon as possible.
The longer you wait, the less likely they will consider you as more than a friend because they will begin to put you into a category.
This is the danger that so many people in this position get into.
They think that by sticking around and being a friend to this person, they will give themselves the best chance at ultimately becoming this person’s lover.
The problem with this kind of thinking is that it almost always doesn’t work.
Even if the person of interest may have had some romantic inclinations towards you at the beginning, they may not now because you waited too long to let them know how you felt about them.
They consequently put you in the “friend” category.
Your best bet is to act now.
Forget about being rejected.
Don’t allow this to stop you.
It is better to know now that they don’t want you romantically than to maintain a friendship in the hopes that romance will develop in the future.
This isn’t the way you should go about handling this situation.
Listen, the last thing you should want is regret.
It is better to take a chance now and see where it leads than always regret about the opportunity that you may have allowed to pass you by.
Do understand as well that if this person of interest is currently single, they will only be single for so long.
They will eventually have a partner.
If you want that partner to be you and not someone else who had the courage to step up, you will have to let them know where you stand and what you want.
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