This is someone you continue to hold on to, believing that somewhere down the line they are changing their mind about you in wanting to be with you.

It is this made-up outcome that keeps this person in your head, and holding on to it is where you are hampering yourself.

The first step in getting someone out of your head is in letting go of any expectation, no matter how miniscule, that this person is coming around one day and liking you.

Sadly, this expectation isn’t realistic.

Once you let go of this expectation, you become more clearheaded, giving yourself the chance to begin the work to completely rid your mind of this person’s influence.

This is when you put yourself to work doing activities that require a refocusing of your mental and physical energy.

Create a schedule for yourself each day that is full of activities.

The key is not to have idle moments during the course of your day.

Idle moments are perilous.

These are the moments where our thoughts easily wonder, and the next thing we know, we are falling back into our old habits in thinking about someone we shouldn’t be thinking about.

The activities you create for yourself each day is where you avoid these idle moments.

It’s important that you don’t only stick with the activities that are mandated to do, such as work, school, etc.

These aren’t enough.

Once done, there is still too much time remaining in your day for you to be idle.

This free time has to be filled up with activity.

Filling this free time with activities that are set outside of your home are better than those set inside of your home.

Being at home creates far too much temptation for you to get too comfortable.

This means that you are suddenly no longer performing whatever activity you had assigned to yourself, and instead, you are sitting on the couch or bed, becoming too comfortable.

This lets your mind wander, ultimately landing on thoughts about this person.

To be safe, stick to activities that are primarily set outside of your home.

What activities are you interested in or curious about?

Photography, hiking, kayaking, swimming, cycling, painting, yoga, working out, pottery, horseback riding, etc.

Create a daily schedule that incorporates activities that are set outside of your home.

This way, by the time you get back home, you are too exhausted to have that much time to think about anything other than taking a shower, eating dinner, and going to bed.

Once you get into the habit of filling your days with activity, your mind fills up with thoughts about these activities.

You are thinking about what new hiking trail you are walking on the next day, how many laps you are adding to your swimming regiment the day after that at the local swimming club, what parts of your body you are working out later that week at the gym, etc.

You are even thinking about the new platonic friends you are making as you are undertaking these new activities in your life, and the lunch meetup at a local deli you are having with a few of them on an upcoming weekend for socializing purposes.

Your life becomes filled with new priorities to such an extent that there is no room for thoughts about the person you want to get out of your head.

All thoughts of this person have been pushed out and replaced with thoughts about the activities you are doing and the new friends you are making.