At this time, you aren’t emotionally ready to date anyone, although you keep making yourself believe that you are.

Unfortunately, you are accepting these dates under the weight of obligation.

A good number of your friends are dating and you don’t want to be the odd one out.

Additionally, you are used to being in relationships, and now that you have been single for however long that it has been, you are uneasy.

It’s not like you pick a time and place for the date with an intention to cancel.

Every time you have accepted a date, you were intent on meeting the guy.

But like clockwise, as the day of the date draws closer, you become doubtful.

The doubt is spurred by the fear that the date is going to be awkward.

You worry that there won’t be chemistry, and that either one of you is bound to say or do something that turns the other off.

Due to all of this worry, you cancel the date, even when you picked the time and place for it.

Think back to all the thoughts you have leading up to a date that you have helped arrange.

Those range of thoughts and consequent emotions are where you find the answer as to why you keep canceling dates.

Think back to the relationships that you have had in the past.

You went out on dates with those past relationship partners before you got into a relationship with them.

What was it that made you follow through with going on those dates as opposed to canceling them?

Think about that.

There is a reason why you followed through on those dates.

These were dates that led to relationships with your past partners.

Have the people you have been talking to lately of romantic potential, not given you the spark that you felt with those you have dated in the past, several of whom you got into a relationship with?

There is a quality that those past relationship partners had that no one you have been talking to in recent memory has possessed.

This is a quality in personality or lifestyle.

You are subconsciously looking for this same quality or lifestyle in the people that you are picking a time and a place for a date with and consequently cancelling on.

Sadly, you are letting yourself believe that you are open to different people that possess unique personalities and lifestyles.

But, you are lying to yourself.

When you keep cancelling on these people, you are showing that your “openness” when it comes to who you choose to date is not so open after all.

To stop this behavior, ask yourself about what you want in a relationship partner.

Instead of making yourself believe that you are open to whoever catches your eye, take a moment to ask yourself about the qualities that you are looking for in a mate.

Also, ask yourself about whether you are emotionally ready to allow someone into your life as a relationship partner.

If you feel that you aren’t emotionally ready to date right now, take a break from it.

Focus on yourself for a while.

On the other hand, if you feel that you are emotionally ready to date, you are better off focusing on only talking to people that meet the qualities that you traditionally seek in a relationship partner.

Pretending that you are open to whoever catches your eye, only leads to a never-ending cycle of cancelled dates.