Have You Put Off Dating Because You Don’t Feel You’re Dating Material Yet?

When you put off dating because you don’t feel you’re dating material yet, you are doing that for underlying reasons that you aren’t acknowledging to yourself.

Have You Put Off Dating Because You Don't Feel You're Dating Material Yet?You make yourself believe that you have been putting off dating based on working to making yourself a better person.

The belief is that you are making improvements in your general temperament, social status, or career.

This being said, the danger of reaching a point where you never feel like you are ready is incredibly real.

In this predicament, there is an obsessiveness in taking this or that action, all under the guise that these actions are required before becoming dating material.

So you work harder towards that promotion at work or that social recognition from your peers.

After you have achieved your goal, you still feel that you aren’t dating material yet.

Consequently, you continue going after different goals, and it never ends.

There is a difference between wanting to improve yourself and being afraid.

It wouldn’t be farfetched to consider that you are putting off dating right now, not necessarily because you are hoping to become dating material, but out of innate fear.

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An innate fear that you will never live up to being the right caliber of partner for someone.

This fear originates from experience.

You were in a relationship with someone in the past that you cared for, and strongly believed that this relationship would work and grow, and it didn’t.

It ended badly, and have asked yourself why this happened.

You came to the conclusion that its failure was due to you not being dating material.

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On account of this, you decide to put off dating and start working towards becoming dating material.

Unfortunately, as you continue to put dating aside in this quest to become the perfect dating material, you are denying the innate fear that you feel in going back to dating.

You are fearful that your heart gets broken again or that you fail in having a successful relationship.

Be certain that you are not putting off dating due to this innate fear.

Be cognizant of what you define as dating material.

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People erroneously define what dating material is based on what they are shown in media and their social circle.

For instance, your friend Paul has status and oozes personality.

He has succeeded in being dating material and attracts tons of women.

As a result, you believe that you should act the exact same way, and have the same accomplishments and social status as Paul.

This isn’t realistic.

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Never ascribe how you should approach becoming dating material based on what you are observing from those you know or the environment around you.

You are your own unique individual and behaving accordingly is the winning approach.

Being someone you aren’t in an attempt to become dating material is a waste of precious time.

Regardless of whether you succeed in attracting women using this phony strategy, it doesn’t take long before the women realize that you were faking it all along.

She moves on, and you are left heartbroken.

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Be confident in who you are.

This alone attracts the right mate to you.

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