You should only start dating again because you feel right about it and you want to share your life with someone in a positive way and authentic way.
You shouldn’t start dating again because you feel like it is something you have to do or because you feel pressured by friends, family or society at large.
Your approach should be positive.
You shouldn’t feel like you need to have someone in your life in order for you to be happy.
Happiness starts from within yourself.
No one else can give you true lasting happiness but yourself.
You have to love who you are first and foremost before you can start inviting someone else to share in your life.
You really have to be aware of how you feel as a person and what you want out of life.
So many people start dating again for all of the wrong reasons.
They aren’t happy with themselves as a person and believe that someone else will fill that void.
This only leads to one failed relationship after the other.
They keep making the same mistakes over and over.
They stay unhappy.
They keep choosing the wrong kind of partner.
They never learn.
You can save yourself a whole lot of heartache by being honest with yourself right now and asking yourself why you would want to start dating again.
Are you trying to fill a void in your life?
Are you so lonely that you just want somebody to be there?
Are you just tired of seeing everyone else seemingly happy in their relationships while you stay single?
You have to be honest with yourself and ask these questions.
The reason why they are so important to ask is because you have to go into this with the right mentality.
You may not be ready to date again when all you are looking for is someone who may be able to make you feel better about yourself and your life.
When you are looking for someone to fill the void, you are showing that you feel like your life is not rich and full the way it is right now.
You are showing that you feel that your life is in some way deficient.
When you are seeing everyone else dating and seemingly happy, you are showing that you are desperately desiring something that you don’t have.
This could lead you to jump into any relationship that comes your way without thinking things through.
You do this because you just want to be like all of these other seemingly happy couples.
Understand that these couples that you see may look happy but that isn’t always the case.
You don’t really know what is happening in those relationships behind closed doors.
If you are thinking about dating because you are just so lonely that you want someone to be there, you would be approaching this the wrong way.
Again, this opens you up to choosing just about anyone to help kill the loneliness.
This relationship may lead to problems that are a lot worse than loneliness because you have desperately and impatiently chosen the wrong partner.
Only start dating again because you are fulfilled in your life and simply want someone to share it with.
This person is not there to fill a void or end your loneliness. They are there to share new experiences with you as you continue to grow both as a person and as a partner.
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