Regrettably, you get too overzealous with a guy that you are romantically interested in, caught up on what a life with him would be like.

You are so caught up in the images that you are seeing in your mind that you become attached to them.

As a consequence, you move the relationship towards a direction you desire.

It’s hard to keep a guy when you do this, given that he knows this movement is premature.

A history where you consistently struggle to keep a guy you have dated in the past, is indicative of this overzealous approach.

You get so excited about where you want the relationship to go, you prematurely push the relationship towards that direction.

You aren’t aware that you do this.

It starts innocently enough.

You spend too much of your free time with him, even when you know that you shouldn’t keep ignoring your friends and hobbies.

There is this erroneous desire within you to see him more than you should, given that you get along with him so well.

He seems fine with this at first, due to how fun and cheery you are.

Notwithstanding, there are certain moments where you feel left out, and all of a sudden, your mood gets sullen.

He observes this and remedies it by cheering you up.

You perk up and everything gets back to normal.

As you spend an increasing amount of time with him, the more claim to his time you feel you deserve.

A new situation arises where you feel left out and you pout once more.

Like before, he cheers you up again.

Inevitably, more of these moments keep happening as time progresses, and he is constantly finding himself either having to explain himself to you, or cheering you up, because you felt left out about something.

This is when a guy builds resentment towards a girl.

It won’t be long before he feels so stifled by her that he decides to start ignoring her.

This leads to supplemental resentment from you.

Soon, he doesn’t care all that much about how you feel.

After all, he has done his best to make you feel involved in his life.

But, being that you are so overeager to move this relationship in the direction that you have romanticized in your mind, you have taken this too far.

Inevitably, he leaves you.

Does this sound familiar?

Is this a pattern that has been exhibited in your past relationships?

A pattern where you force a relationship in a direction you want it to go, instead of letting the relationship progress naturally.

Take a breath.

Maintain your individuality and you won’t become overzealous.

Doing this requires that you keep actively engaging in your hobbies and socializing with your friends.

When your life isn’t entirely wrapped around a guy, you avoid the pitfalls of being too overbearing.

Letting a relationship evolve naturally is how you keep a guy.