Although you believe that she has feelings for you, it’s time to be candid with yourself.
If she has feelings for you, why would she turn you down twice?
I know, I know.
You are going to come up with an excuse for her.
She is going through a difficult time in her life.
She is misunderstood.
She was treated and played with so badly by her ex-boyfriend that she is not so sure about her own emotions anymore.
She is figuring out her purpose in life, and once she does, she will be with you.
In all honesty, you are lying to yourself.
You tell yourself anything so as to justify why this is happening and find a way to give yourself hope.
Quite frankly, there is no hope here.
She has turned you down twice.
This means that the first time wasn’t some fluke mistake because she just wasn’t thinking straight.
She did it again.
She turned you down twice.
This solidifies the fact that the first time was not a fluke mistake.
What exactly is it going to take for you to get it?
If she turned you down a third time, would that do it?
Listen, I know how hard it is to let someone go.
Especially when this is someone that you love and have tremendous affection for.
However, you have to start seeing this from her own lenses.
She has turned you down twice.
She is thinking that she doesn’t like you in the manner that you like her.
You have a friendship with this girl or you are in the same circles.
However, this doesn’t change the fact that she is not eager to take your relationship with her any further.
She has proven that twice.
You feel that she has feelings for you because she has told you so.
Maybe the both of you have hooked up in the past or flirted.
However, as that old adage goes, “the proof is in the pudding.”
Words mean nothing without real action.
They are just words.
Upon hooking up with you or flirting with you in the past, she never followed that up by dating you and becoming your exclusive girlfriend.
This signifies that she doesn’t want to take things any further than what you currently have with her.
I know it is hard to accept this, but it doesn’t change your reality.
Action is everything.
She hasn’t taken that action.
She hasn’t gone the extra mile by letting you court her.
What are you going to keep doing?
Are you going to keep hoping that she comes around?
The danger in doing this is that you exert so much wasted energy and emotion to get her to date you, and be with you, that you lose out on girls that would have given you a chance.
Be smart.
Let her go and meet new girls who demonstrate that they are interested in you through their actions.
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