What Should My Next Move Be After Getting Turned Down Twice By The Girl I Know Has Feelings For Me?

What Should My Next Move Be After Getting Turned Down Twice By The Girl I Know Has Feelings For Me?

Your next move should be to leave this alone and move on.

You may believe that she has feelings for you but you really have to be honest with yourself.

If she truly has feelings for you, why would she turn you down twice?

I know, I know.

You are going to come up with some kind of excuse for her.

She is going through a difficult time in her life.

She is misunderstood.

She was treated and played with so badly by her ex-boyfriend that she is not so sure about her own emotions anymore.

She is just trying to figure out her purpose in life and once she does, she will be with you.

In all honesty, you are lying to yourself.

You will tell yourself anything just so that you can justify why this is happening and find a way to give yourself hope.

Quite frankly, there is no hope here.

She has turned you down twice.

This means that the first time wasn’t some fluke mistake because she just wasn’t thinking straight.

She did it again.

She turned you down twice.

Again, this solidifies the fact that the first time was not a fluke mistake.

What exactly is it going to take for you to get it?

If she turned you down a third time, would that do it?

Listen, I know how hard it can be to let someone go.

Especially if this is someone that you love and have tremendous affection for.

However, you have to start seeing this from her own lenses.

She has turned you down twice.

She may be thinking that she just doesn’t like you the way you like her.

Perhaps you have some kind of friendship with this girl or you are in the same circles.

However, this doesn’t change the fact that she is not willing to take your relationship with her any further.

She has proven that twice.

Perhaps you feel that she has feelings for you because she has told you so.

Maybe the both of you have even hooked up in the past or flirted.

However, as that old adage goes, “the proof is in the pudding.”

Words mean nothing without real action.

They are just words.

If she hooked up with you or flirted with you in the past, she has never followed that up by dating you and being your exclusive girlfriend.

This typically signifies that she isn’t willing to take things any further than what you currently have with her.

I know it is hard to accept this, but it doesn’t change your reality.

Action is everything.

She hasn’t taken that action.

She hasn’t been willing to go the extra mile and become your girlfriend or at least begin the dating process.

What are you going to keep doing?

Are you going to keep hoping that she comes around?

The danger in doing this is that you may exert so much energy and emotion just trying to get her to date you and be with you to no avail that you may lose out on other girls that would have given you a chance.

Be smart.

Let her go and allow yourself the opportunity to meet new girls that may be truly interested in you and willing to show you through their actions.

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