A significant number of people do feel as though they are less than a person having never been in a relationship.
As human beings, we gravitate toward other human beings.
We don’t want to be alone.
We want to fit in.
As a person, you see how those in relationships seem to be happy.
It appears as though those in relationships have no worries and are happier than ever.
You envy that.
You envy the fact that two people have found each other and deem each other worthy of being loved and cared for.
However, there you stand.
You have never been in a relationship.
You have never been seen by someone else as a person who is worthy of being loved.
At least, no one else has acted on that emotion if they have felt it.
So, you feel less of a person.
You feel less of a person as you continue to observe couples live and breathe around you.
You ask yourself why someone else can’t find you just as worthy.
Listen, oftentimes, a powerful craving to be in a relationship is what leads to people being turned off by you.
People don’t want to get into relationships where they feel like they are fated to be doing all the heavy-lifting.
A guy doesn’t want to feel as though he is rescuing you from something.
When you are so unhappy and feel less of a person because you have never been in a relationship, people sense that unhappiness.
He doesn’t want to go near it.
He doesn’t want to introduce that unhappiness into his life by dating you.
Most people want to enter relationships where there is a synergy and a mutual caring.
In seeing that you are this unhappy, he worries that this is a precursor to how you are bound to be as his girlfriend.
Relationships are challenging enough.
In a scenario where he gets into one with you, he hopes to be equals.
He doesn’t want to have to lift you up emotionally.
Rather, he wants someone who is equally ready to face the challenge of a relationship and take equal responsibility in it.
Unfortunately, when you are demonstrating this emotional weakness, he knows that he is the one who is having to constantly lift your spirits up in a relationship.
He is repeatedly having to reassure you that you are loved and everything is alright.
That is a load of hard work.
Most people want to avoid being put in this position when they are considering entering a relationship.
This is why observing your behavior when you are on your own and around romantic potentials is vital.
When you have a tendency to be down in spirits, correcting this is a must, if you hope to be in a relationship one day.
Stop fixating on relationships right now and fixate on building your sense of self-worth instead.
Do this by challenging yourself each day through completing a small task that you otherwise wouldn’t have done.
Pick up a book and read a few pages or learn a few words in a new language daily.
Build that treehouse or garden in the backyard.
As time goes on, self-assurance within you strengthens, as you complete each daily task.
This helps you stop feeling like you are less of a person.
Eventually, people of romantic potential pick up on your self-assurance and want to talk to you.
One of these is a future romantic partner.
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