The man is paying for you on his own volition.

He wants to woo you properly by taking on the lion’s share of the financial burden in the early stages of courtship.

This works best.

Being shy about it is understandable at first, but don’t dwell on it, nor keep it up on future dates.

A man is far more motivated to court a woman when he leads.

In leading, he sets up the dates and pays for them.

In the early stages of courtship, this is what makes the process seamless.

There are girls who are self-conscious when a guy pays for them.

She worries that she is taking advantage of him and is compelled to offer to pay for the dates out of a heavy conscience.

It’s commendable that you care enough about coming off as someone who is taking advantage of him, that you offer to split the bill at a date, but you shouldn’t.

Express gratitude when he pays for a date, but let him pay for it.

This is what motivates a guy to keep courting you.

In letting him lead, you give him the impetus to keep at it.

A guy struggles to see your value when you are the one paying for dates or splitting bills with him at every date.

This behavior is detrimental to a man’s natural instinct to lead and court a woman.

Rather, he doesn’t value his time with you that much.

It doesn’t feel as though he is courting you.

It’s as though he is out on a platonic date with a friend who is paying her way, or sometimes covering his end of the bill.

When a guy sees you as more of a friend than a romantic conquest, his interest in you wanes.

Eventually, he isn’t putting in all that much of an effort to ask you out on dates and set them up.

He leaves that to you.

After all, you have assumed quite a bit of the financial burden in this supposed courtship.

Next thing you know, you are the one texting or calling him to set up dates.

Sometimes, he is showing up to a date, and other times, he is canceling on a date.

This is how you know that his interest in you is waning and you are no longer a woman he sees as a romantic conquest.

You are more of a platonic friend or acquaintance.

You see, it doesn’t benefit you to believe that you are taking advantage of a man when he pays for a date.

It’s alright to be shy at first, but that has to stop in consequent dates.

If you keep showing that you are shy whenever he pays for you, you subliminally convey the wrong message to him.

It tells him that you don’t deem yourself worthy to have a man pay for your meal, drinks, or whatever it is he is paying for.

This devalues you in his eyes, and subconsciously, his interest falters.

Constantly showing this shyness whenever he pays for you, jeopardizes the courtship process over time, inevitably destroying his interest in you.

Is this what you want?

Chuck the shyness out the window.

Show gratitude whenever he pays for you, but believe you are worth the expense.

This is the confidence that makes a man exhilarated about you.

His interest in you only grows with each consequent date, which bodes well for you, especially when you see romantic potential in him.