The honeymoon phase in a new relationship lasts about six to twelve months.

As a new couple, you are living in that phase right now.

Given the amount of dopamine and serotonin in your systems, you are likely wanting to be around each other as much as possible.

You are a new couple, and it feels like there are so many more adventures remaining to be had and much more to learn about each other.

Now that you are in an official relationship as a couple, it’s critical you don’t get caught up in the mindset that much more must be done right away.

A new couple with this mindset unnaturally increases the number of calls and meetings each week solely based on the perception that this is what is required.

It isn’t.

Although you are officially a new couple, it doesn’t mean you are mandated to dramatically increase the number of calls and meetings each week.

There is safety in maintaining the status quo.

When you unnaturally increase the frequency of calls and meetings each week purely based on being in an official relationship, you run a risk of applying unnecessary pressure on the new relationship too prematurely.

Although it is a new relationship, it is in its infancy.

Being in its infancy, it doesn’t have the strength to withstand so much pressure were you to suddenly elevate the frequency with which you call and meet each week.

When a new couple does this, the pressure often creates too much stress on the relationship over time.

This is where you are both feeling obligated to call and meet far more often a week than you are used to, which messes with your schedules and regular routines.

A new relationship shouldn’t feel like a burden as you struggle to readjust your regular schedules or ditch tasks entirely just to accommodate the change.

This is far too much of a premature adjustment in a new relationship.

Over weeks and months, this forced change is bound to become an impediment to the sustainability and health of the relationship.

Even though you are in a new relationship, it is still critical to have your own independent lives.

When there is far too much emphasis placed on sharing more time with each other each week, whether it be through phone calls or meetings, your lives become too intertwined too soon.

All of this applies too much pressure on a new relationship over time, which is a recipe for absolute disaster, as altercations ensue that only get worse with time.

Rather than prematurely elevating the number of calls and meetings a week, maintain the same level that you had before becoming a couple.

Over the course of a few weeks, allow the number of phone calls and meetings to steadily increase.

For example, instead of continuing to call each other 4 times a week, increase it by one or two.

Instead of meeting once a week, add one new meeting.

All of this should be done intentionally.

In other words, there is an open discussion beforehand where you look at your schedules and find spots where adding an extra call or meeting works best.

Using this gradual strategy to increase the frequency of calls and meetings a week, you aren’t applying undue pressure on the new relationship by doing too much too soon.

This creates a natural flow to the frequency, allowing it to keep elevating at a natural pace until it arrives at a final frequency that best suits your relationship.