There are people in prison that made mistakes they sincerely regret.
We aren’t all perfect.
Some people are born into unfortunate circumstances with family and their social environment that often leads to making poor decisions, especially when they are younger and more prone to making emotional decisions over logical ones.
These people who grow up in unfortunate circumstances are more susceptible to making poor decisions based on what they are suffering through or lacking in the moment, leading to the committing of a crime and incarceration.
Some of these people learn their lesson after a stint or period of time in prison and become reformed.
The recidivism rate for people who have been imprisoned for non-violent crimes is at 40%, which means there is a greater likelihood they don’t commit further crime after being released from prison.
When you are considering dating or marrying someone in prison, it’s critical that you look at the bigger picture.
In the event the intent is to date seriously over the long term, knowing how likely he is to commit further crimes in the future and get rearrested is relevant.
Building and sustaining a relationship with a man who is constantly getting rearrested will create instability and turmoil in your love life.
Such a relationship negatively affects other areas of your life, such as your work life and relationship with friends and family.
When you are constantly having to babysit him by keeping him out of trouble, bailing him out of jail, and supporting him financially as he struggles to find a job and keep it, it can all become too much stress and responsibility to handle.
This is why you should consider who the guy is and whether a guy like him has less of a chance of recommitting crimes.
Knowing the recidivism rate for men who commit nonviolent crimes gives you a much-needed perspective on whether he is likely to recommit a crime.
Also, his history helps.
If this was the first time he committed a crime like this, and he doesn’t have a history of committing crimes, there is a better chance that he is less likely to commit crimes when he is released from prison.
In addition, knowing that he will have a strong support network around him besides you when he is released from prison, such as upstanding family members and friends, a support group, or a rehabilitative program for people like him that keeps each other accountable, etc.
As long as you do the work in making these considerations before choosing to date or marry someone in prison, it isn’t at all impossible to date or marry someone in prison and have a healthy relationship.
That said, a person who is in prison for a violent crime is a different story.
The recidivism for men in prison who commit a violent crime is 64%.
This is significantly higher than that of people who are in prison for nonviolent crime.
This means that by choosing to date or marry this person, you run a risk of having a tumultuous relationship wherein upon release, he is repeatedly arrested for committing further violent crime.
This disruption to your lifestyle is sure to negatively affect your mental and financial health, as well as your relationships with friends and family.
Not to mention, given his violent nature and history, you put your own personal well-being at risk if he were to lose control one day after having one too many drinks or taking drugs.
Needless to say, if you are thinking about dating or marrying someone in prison, considering someone who committed a nonviolent crime is much more favorable to you.