There was a bitter taste left in your mouth when you realized that he had ghosted you.

There were no warning signs that this was about to happen.

The few dates that you had with him prior to being ghosted were great.

He was flirty, touchy, and very engaged on the dates.

There was no doubt in your mind that everything was moving along splendidly.

And the unthinkable happened.

He ghosted you.

Just like that, he wasn’t responding to your text messages.

Naturally, you have replayed what transpired the last time you saw him.

You don’t remember anything bad taking place.

He was as flirty, touchy, and engaging as he had been in previous dates.

Upon realizing that you had been ghosted, you didn’t know what to make of it.

Regardless, you felt that he should have messaged you and given you the common courtesy of letting you know that he was no longer interested in you.

This is what made you feel compelled to text him.

It had nothing to do with wanting him back.

That ship has sailed.

It was more so about getting him to fess up to his bad behavior.

You aren’t someone who would ghost a person that you have gone on a few dates with, and expect the same courtesy from any guy you are dating.

So, you texted him after being ghosted.

You were polite, but you did call him out on what he did.

He responded apologetically, but it didn’t matter.

The deed was done.

He had been made aware that ghosting someone isn’t right, especially when he should know better as a grown adult.

As someone who has experienced their fair share of getting ghosted by relationship prospects, I relate to why you felt the need to text him after being ghosted.

No one likes getting ghosted.

Texting him and politely calling him out on it must have felt good.

Almost cathartic.

That being said, don’t get into a habit of doing this.

Being single, you are putting yourself out there as you seek out a compatible partner.

This increases the odds that you are bound to meet more guys who ghost you in some fashion, whether it be through no longer communicating with you, or in not showing up at a date that was agreed upon.

When you take every incident of ghosting personally, feeling compelled to call the guy out, it creates an adverse psychological effect on you.

Basically, you develop a knee-jerk reaction to guys who exhibit any form of behavior that makes you believe that you are being ghosted.

For example, a guy is courting you and has been quick to respond to your messages over the course of a few weeks.

One fateful day, he gets tied up doing a task at home or at work, and he is not available to respond to your latest message as promptly as he had been doing in the past.

Seeing that it has been a few hours and he is yet to respond to your last message, you instantly draw a conclusion that he is ghosting you.

Next thing you know, your attitude changes towards him into one of suspicion.

When he gets around to messaging you, a substantial number of hours later, your attitude is negative or lackadaisical.

You aren’t as energetic and extemporaneous as you were in prior conversations, now that you have a suspicion that he is no longer taking you seriously, and might ghost you in the foreseeable future.

He isn’t stupid.

He senses that your attitude has changed, and all of a sudden, he gets the impression that you are losing interest in him, or have been playing games with him all along in feigning interest.

Before you know it, you are suspicious of each other.

This ruins the goodwill and momentum that had been building up, which makes him feel less compelled to ask you out on future dates.