Figuring out whether you are meant to be single has a lot to do with making an assessment of your thoughts and emotions.
How do you behave when you are in relationships?
Are you fully invested in those relationships or merely going through the motions?
Sometimes, as human beings, we feel the need to be in relationships as it seems to be what is appropriate.
Everyone else seems to be doing it and you don’t want to be the odd person out.
Is this who you are though?
Is this what you truly want?
When you find yourself not putting in any real effort into a relationship, that is often a sign that you aren’t meant for one.
At least, not at this time.
You have other priorities that preoccupy your headspace a lot more than the relationship.
Your career for instance.
It doesn’t even have to be something as profound as that.
Perhaps you just like your own company or prefer the company of friends without having to worry about a boyfriend to take care of.
There is nothing wrong with a lack of enthusiasm when it comes to relationships.
At this stage in your life, it doesn’t fit your lifestyle.
It is never good to force a relationship out of a sense of external pressure or a feeling that you should be in one.
Doing so would be unfair to the person you are in a relationship with and to yourself.
Take this time to learn more about yourself and grow.
In time, you reach a point where you want to share your life with someone, or you don’t.
If you do, it won’t be out of desperation or external pressure.
You just have a lot better understanding of who you are now and believe that you are able to enrich a new partner’s life in a positive way.
If your issue has nothing to do with a lack of enthusiasm with relationships and more so to do with a lack of ability to attract a partner, you are certainly not alone.
People often need a reason to become attracted to someone.
For some, it’s a person’s physical appearance, for others, it’s the person’s influence or way of life.
Think about the type of person you would normally be attracted to and would want to be in a relationship with.
What do they look like?
Are they physically fit?
How do they live their lives?
What activities do they engage in?
Now that you have an idea of what this person is, be that person.
This is the key to attracting the right person to you.
Be the type of person you want to attract, as long as it gels with your personality type.
Engage in the types of activities you would want this future partner to be involved in.
Make sure you look the part.
If that future partner is fit, work on your own physical fitness by exercising, joining a gym, etc.
The point is to live the type of life you envision that person to have.
As long as you are being true to yourself in this exercise and not trying to be something you aren’t, you are going to put yourself in situations where people like you begin to notice you.
Like is attracting like.
The person stops you at a bookstore and begins a chat.
Or starts a conversation with you at the gym, dance class, music festival, art exhibit, etc.
Be the person you would want to attract and you won’t be single for much longer.
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