The union so far has been amazing.

You share similar interests and likes with each other.

Conversation has been fun, intriguing, and easygoing.

You are absolutely loving everything about dating this woman.

It is early in your relationship with her, but there is something that has remained consistent since day one.

She pays for everything, every time.

Whether it is transportation to get to a date venue or paying at the date venue itself, she pays.

There have been numerous occasions where you have wanted to pay, but she persistently turns down these offers with a smile.

There is no malice in her voice when she does.

You can tell that she would much rather talk about something else, so that the conversation doesn’t get hijacked by your pleas to pay for a date.

Basically, she doesn’t want to have the conversation, and you don’t push it, so as not to upset her.

Yet, this is an issue that keeps bothering you.

As amazing as it has been to be with her, you have never had this happen with any woman you have dated in the past.

It is odd to you and you don’t quite know what to do about it.

A few months of dating has elapsed, and there is no end in sight to this.

The other night, she paid for yet another date.

And yes, again, you wanted to bring up the subject of paying for the date.

Notwithstanding, in the back of your mind, you knew that she would do as she has been doing all along, turn you down with a smile.

It’s not like she won the lottery.

She works a regular job at an office.

Moreover, she knows that you aren’t destitute either.

You have a regular job too and have the financial wherewithal to pay for a date.

Why does this woman pay for everything, every time?

She is an alpha female.

She pays for everything, every time, with the intent of maintaining a significant degree of control over her relationship with you.

In assuming a financial responsibility that is traditionally relegated to a man, she wants to earn the position of being the one who is in control and gets to make the decisions.

That’s the ultimate goal.

Right now, she intends to lull you into a subconscious acceptance of this.

To do this, she assumes the financial burden on dates.

This financial responsibility gives her the agency to be the one who makes the suggestions on where to go on dates.

Knowing that she is most likely going to pay for a date, you are much less likely to counter her suggestions.

You go along with them.

This is how she lulls you into a complacent and passive frame of mind.

As time progresses, her suggestions go beyond where she wants to take you on a date, and become more personal.

Her suggestions are harmless at first.

A suggestion that you wear a new hairstyle, or cut something out of your diet.

You acquiesce without opposition, believing she is looking out for you.

With every suggestion that you agree to, you embolden her.

Soon, she is dictating what you do as a hobby or who you associate with as a friend.

To reiterate, this is her ultimate goal.

Control.

In paying for everything, every time, she lulls you into a state of mind of complacency and passivity.

This eventually leads to a full acceptance of her control.

Unfortunately, this is the antithesis of a healthy relationship.

When the concept of control is lopsided in a relationship, it’s inevitable that the partner who has control abuses that power.

This leads to mental abuse and a loss of self-esteem, as you are left feeling powerless and stuck.

A healthy relationship is balanced.

No one partner should be paying for everything, every time.