Who Pays For The Date?

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Who Pays For The Date?

If you are a guy and you asked the girl out on this first date, the girl will more than likely expect you to pay for the date.

She may act like she is about to pay at the end of the date but in all honesty, she wants you to pay for it.

Hence, if you are a guy and you did the asking out for this first date, just pay for the date.

It keeps things simple and it does make sense since you were the one who asked her out.

Now, you do need to understand something.

This doesn’t mean that you should pay for every date.

Let me stress that again.

This doesn’t mean that you should pay for every date.

If the both of you have been going out on dates, there should be a give and take as time goes on.

You should want a girl who offers to pay on date two or three.

This is the type of girl who has a lot of respect for you and is also very honest.

This helps you understand where her intentions lay.

This is how it should be.

If she likes you enough to be going out on multiple dates with you, she should pay for some dates.

The dating process is not a one way street.

It involves two parties who are presumably romantically interested in each other.

Hence, though you may have initiated the process, she has to respond in kind as time goes on in order to create a degree of balance.

The mistake that a lot of guys make is to simply keep paying for dates with no end in sight.

This is not the way to go.

You may think that by so doing you are impressing the girl and scoring points, but in all honesty, all you may be doing is giving her free meals and a good time without any intention on her part to give you anything back.

You really need to be cognizant of the fact that there are girls who will do this.

They will allow you to pay for date after date when they actually have no true interest in you.

This can lead to a lot of frustration on your part.

Unfortunately, this is truly real and not a joke.

You must be wise and smart when you decide to go out on dates with girls.

Date a quality girl who will not use you for dates.

A quality girl will not keep allowing you to pay for date after date.

A quality girl will not keep teasing you with her words just hoping that you keep taking her out while giving you nothing back in return.

Again, many guys fall into this trap because they want so badly to impress the girl and have her like him.

They have also been taught or shown by some that being the only one paying for date after date is the measure of a “gentleman.”

This couldn’t be any further from the truth.

You must still maintain your dignity above all things.

Your dignity is what makes you who you are.

It is part of what makes you worth dating.

You shouldn’t be taken advantage of simply because you want to impress someone and be a so-called “gentleman.”

As I mentioned earlier, the dating process is a two way street.

The other party must contribute as well in order to show honesty and good faith.

Hence, don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of paying for date after date after date.

If she is truly a quality girl who has genuine interest in you, she will invite you to do something with her relatively soon.

No, not on date 10 after you have paid for dates 1-9.

She would do it much earlier than that.

Simply be patient and don’t keep forcing the issue when it comes to going on dates.

Most girls who truly feel comfortable and feel real chemistry with a guy will have no problem inviting the guy to do something with them or asking them out on date 2 or 3.

This is when you know that you are dealing with a girl of real substance who isn’t just using you to get free meals or paid dates.

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