It shouldn’t be.

Your partner is supposed to be your rock and solitude.

He is where you go to get respite from the world and know you are safe emotionally, mentally and physically.

That is what your partner is supposed to be to you.

Criticizing your body is unacceptable.

It isn’t normal in a healthy relationship.

Your partner chose to get into an exclusive relationship with you knowing full well what your body looks like.

He doesn’t have the agency to criticize your body when he already knew what your body looked like before choosing to get into a committed relationship with you.

This is how you know that he wasn’t honest with you in the early stages of dating.

He lied to you about how attractive he thought you were.

He said all those lies to butter you up, and get you to fall for him.

Now that he has gotten you to fall for him and he is comfortable in the relationship, he is emboldened.

Unfortunately, he knows that you are in love with him and emotionally attached.

This gives him a great deal of power.

Power he didn’t have in the early stages of dating you.

He waited until now before showing his true colors in criticizing your body, knowing that it would be much harder for you to leave him once you had fallen for him.

This is a troublesome sign of what is about to come.

Now that he is criticizing your body and you are letting him get away with it, his verbal abuse is only going to get worse.

Relationships that are verbally abusive are detrimental to the victim’s mental health.

Many victims end up suffering from a myriad of mental illnesses that permeate into every facet of their lives.

This is what you have waiting in store for you if you stay with this guy.

He is not a keeper.

And don’t be fooled about the other qualities he possesses that you love so much.

The qualities that made you fall in love with him.

His amazing persona, caring nature, and sweetness, made you fall in love with him.

Don’t be fooled.

That is what he is counting on.

In holding on to these qualities, it is that much harder for you to leave him.

This gives him extra insurance.

Between your emotional attachment, and your reluctance to let go of a boyfriend who possesses these qualities, you are stuck.

Stuck in a relationship you are fearful that you can’t walk away from no matter how verbally abusive he gets.

This is a trap that he has laid out for you.

As heartbreaking as this is, you have to think about your future.

A future without him.

Yes, it’s time to let go of the future you were excited to have with him.

After all, everything you know of him has been a farce.

Undoubtedly, breaking up with him is painful.

Nevertheless, it dulls in comparison to what years of verbal abuse does to you, if you stay with him.