It isn’t welcome news that he slept with a girl and got her pregnant while on a break from his relationship with you.

This news came as a shock to you.

The hope was to use this break to figure out whether the relationship was viable.

Unfortunately, while in the process of doing this, you were informed by your boyfriend that he had gotten a girl pregnant.

Knowing that taking a break from a relationship has its benefits, there was a part of you that was hoping for a mutual reconciliation.

Time apart sometimes makes a pair realize how much they need each other, which inspires them to strategize ways of saving the relationship.

This being said, your boyfriend did get a girl pregnant during this break, and you must glean the right message from what has happened.

The message is this.

Your relationship with your boyfriend isn’t viable.

The longer a break lasts, the likelier the relationship isn’t viable.

If it is any solace to you, regardless of whether he had gotten a girl pregnant or not, the relationship with your boyfriend was already on life support before the break was agreed upon.

Instead of using the break to figure out where the relationship was headed, and whether it could be saved, he started sleeping with a new girl.

The only reason why he is sorry for getting this girl pregnant has everything to do with the fact that he got caught, as opposed to having remorse.

It wasn’t one moment of bad judgment on his part either.

It’s likely he slept with her multiple times before she got pregnant.

Ergo, he was fully aware of what he was doing, as he made a conscious decision to sleep with her over and over again.

What does that tell you?

It tells you that he wasn’t concerned about figuring out how to save his relationship with you while on break.

He was more concerned about addressing his physical needs.

Now that he has been caught, thanks to the news of her pregnancy, he is going to be apologetic, making promises to you that he hopes gets you to forgive him.

Don’t.

As aforementioned, if there was any doubt about whether your relationship needed to come to an official end, your boyfriend of 6 years has made that decision much easier to make.

I know it isn’t easy to let go of someone you have shared so much with over 6 years.

As a matter of fact, your boyfriend is hoping to use this to weasel his way back into your good graces.

He tells you that he wants to be with you, and that getting her pregnant was a mistake, but it wasn’t.

He was fully aware of what he was doing in sleeping with this girl, and doing it over and over again until she got pregnant.

It’s unlikely he developed deep feelings for this girl in such a short time frame of a few months, while there was a break in your relationship with him.

To sleep with her so wantonly signifies that he has a lack of self-control.

Is a guy with a lack of self-control someone you can trust?

During the break, he was supposed to be figuring out what was going wrong in the relationship and whether there was a viable route forward.

He clearly wasn’t doing that.

This lets you know that while on a break from the relationship, he wasn’t taking that time seriously.

He was fooling around with this woman, and would have kept that from you if she hadn’t gotten pregnant.

This pregnancy is how you know that the relationship you had with him was on life support before the break, and now, it should be as good as dead, as long as you don’t take him back.

Trust is lost in the relationship.

Forgiving him and taking him back is an invite to have this happen again.

Without trust, a relationship isn’t healthy nor sustainable.