There have been loud fights over this to no avail.

Despite your protests, your boyfriend won’t delete his ex gf’s nudes.

He has the same excuse each time.

He isn’t ready to let go of his past and it’s no big deal.

You beg to differ.

It is a big deal to you.

You have gone as far as considering a break from him.

Whenever he is sexually intimate with you, his ex gf’s nudes are a constant image in your mind.

You are wondering whether he is visualizing her as he is having sex with you.

This makes it hard for you to get into it.

Then he gets mad at you.

What does he expect?

For you to somehow wipe out the thought that he is visualizing his ex when he has repeatedly refused deleting his ex girlfriend’s nudes.

You are terrified of what he does with those nudes when you aren’t around.

Is he drooling over them?

Getting off on them?

As far as you are concerned, a guy who authentically cares about his girlfriend respects her wishes.

He deletes his ex girlfriend’s nudes.

Yet, the boyfriend you have won’t do it.

He chooses to keep those nudes in his phone.

Although you want to believe your boyfriend is committed to you, in leaving his ex girlfriend’s nudes on his phone, you question his commitment.

I see where you are headed in your train of thought.

It’s fair that you would worry he isn’t over his ex girlfriend in keeping her nudes.

You don’t want to dedicate your life to your boyfriend, and ascertain down the line that he has never gotten over his ex girlfriend.

This isn’t purely about a fear that he desires his ex girlfriend sexually.

It’s a fear that he wants her back too.

That in keeping her nudes, he is holding on to what he once had with her, and reliving his time with her.

This twofer is what has you wondering about the sustainability of your relationship with him.

You don’t want to put in the time and hard work into this relationship, and have him leave you for her in the end.

I am with you on this.

These are justifiable reasons to be worried about these nudes.

Although you have addressed it with him a few times and he has given you excuses, you have to have a new conversation with him about it.

Ask him about how he would feel if you had a bunch of nudes from your ex boyfriend on your phone and refused to delete them.

Presenting this perspective gives him an avenue to look at this situation differently.

If this isn’t enough to get him to delete his ex girlfriend’s nudes, you have to exercise your power in taking away sexual intimacy with him.

Surely, if you aren’t enough for him, by all means, he has his girlfriend’s nudes to go to for his sexual fulfillment.

In drawing a line on the sand by justifiably taking away sexual intimacy, you demonstrate that there are consequences for holding on to his girlfriend’s nudes.

This should be enough for him to realize the seriousness of this behavior and quickly delete those nudes.