Patience is a virtue, and yours is wearing thin with this guy.

There is no doubt that you want the relationship to progress faster than it has.

You want commitment.

You have been around this guy enough to know that you are ready for this.

Yet, he hasn’t been as forthcoming.

Every time you bring up the topic of commitment, he tells you that you are moving too fast.

Each time he tells you this, you respect his wishes.

You back off.

But it doesn’t take long before your yearning for him to commit resurfaces and you are asking him about it again.

Although you don’t want to come off as pushy, you believe that you have good reason to ask him about commitment.

For one, you have been courting each other long enough for him to know whether he wants to commit to you.

And then, there is the fear that you could end up being hurt if you were to let this relationship go on for much longer without a solid commitment from him.

The last thing you want is to spend months and months investing in this relationship, believing that it is headed for a solid commitment, only to have him break up with you, informing you that he isn’t in love with you.

Although you want to be patient with him, you don’t want to wait forever and run the risk of getting hurt.

All of your fears are warranted.

A guy normally knows that he wants commitment within the first 3 months of courting a girl.

How long has your relationship lasted so far?

A relationship that has gone beyond 3 months warrants a label.

A guy who hasn’t put a solid label on a relationship after 3 months, warrants suspicion.

Take a look back at his previous relationships.

How long did they last?

Does he have a track record of long-term or short-term relationships?

A track record of short-term relationships is your indication that this guy has a problem with commitment.

Without a doubt, the girls who were in these short-term relationships with him were hoping for commitment.

Some of them stuck around for a little too long and had to break it up once they realized that they weren’t going to get that commitment.

You don’t want to be the girl that sticks around for too long.

Instead of giving him a pass whenever you bring up the topic of commitment, have a proper conversation with him about it.

Get to the bottom of what is holding him back.

Is there something about you that he is afraid of?

Do you have a past that worries him?

Infidelity in a previous relationship for instance.

Does he not like your family and friends?

Have a proper conversation with him and get to the bottom of why he has been reluctant to fully commit.

A lack of valid reasons behind why he isn’t committing to you, should be your signal that it wouldn’t be worth it to keep dating this guy.