No matter what disappointments you have experienced in dating, you should never believe that all of those experiences define who you are.
People often make the mistake in drawing a conclusion that they must be a certain way given how their dating experiences always seem to go wrong.
Yes, when there is something you keep hearing as a criticism by previous partners, you should most certainly take it into advisement, but you should never conclude that you are beyond saving.
Everyone makes mistakes.
Everyone is flawed in some capacity.
Even the men you have had crushes on in the past, of whom you thought the world revolved around, weren’t perfect either.
We are humans.
We are always a work in progress.
As long as we keep doing the work that needs to be done on ourselves, our lives improve and we get better results.
You are never good enough for men when you allow yourself to become someone you aren’t, simply to meet the needs you perceive those men have in a woman.
Think about it.
Has there ever been a time when you have overdone it just to impress that man that you like?
Has there been a time when you have adjusted your personality to something else in order to make that man notice you and hopefully approve?
Has there been a time when you have gone along with whatever he wanted, even when you didn’t like it, just so that he sticks around?
There are lots of moments to look back to where you have gone out of your way to appease the men you like.
This is a major mistake.
It is an indication that you don’t believe that the person you are is good enough.
This is where you are hurting yourself beyond anything.
When you don’t believe that you are good enough for the men you like, you make fake adjustments to your personality, belief system and lifestyle, in order to accommodate those men.
The problem with that is that you are now living a lie.
You have made yourself believe that getting this man to like you and date you is more important than staying true to yourself.
It is only a matter of time before it all falls apart.
You are able to get these men to see you in this fake light, but for only a short while.
It doesn’t last.
It can’t last.
This isn’t who you are.
You have created a persona to meet what you think he wants.
It is only a matter of time before he sees through it and leaves you.
Now, you feel defeated.
You make the assessment that he left you because you weren’t good enough.
You are wrong.
He left you because you got him to become attracted to the person you were pretending to be, his ideal, when you weren’t truly that person.
No matter how flawed you believe yourself to be as a human being, you have to accept and love who you are first and foremost before thinking about getting a partner.
It is when you do this that you are able to be who you really are whenever you are around a man you like.
Who you are is good enough.
Again, as human beings, we should always be working on improving ourselves.
We are always a work in progress.
You don’t have to be Miss Perfect though to get the right man.
A man who believes you are good enough.
No one is ever the most perfect being and many men know this, being that they aren’t perfect themselves.
Embrace who you are.
Work on what you believe makes you a better person, but never allow the temptation of being with a man make you change your true self.
Men appreciate authentic women.
Be that woman and you are good enough for many men.