Talking to a member of the opposite sex about your relationship problems isn’t cheating, when done right.

Basically, know where to draw the line.

Never spend an inordinate amount of time talking to a member of the opposite sex about your relationship problems.

Your time is better spent talking to your relationship partner about said problems and working on fixing those problems as a team.

Where people make a misstep is when they confide more so in their friend of the opposite sex than in their partner.

This is where you begin to look at that member of the opposite sex as the person to go to whenever you has an issue or argument with your relationship partner.

Instead of talking to your relationship partner about the problem, you go to a friend of the opposite sex to complain about what your relationship partner did.

This is where it gets tricky.

When you use this member of the opposite sex as a soundboard of support in these situations, you are susceptible to developing a level of trust with this person that you don’t share with your relationship partner.

This leads a relationship partner to believe that there is something going on between you and this friend, and this alone creates severe relationship problems with said partner.

A deficit of trust is one of those severe relationship problems.

Without trust, a romantic relationship endures a cacophony of problems and won’t last.

Rather than confiding in a member of the opposite sex about your relationship problems, talk to your partner about them.

Your partner is the person that you are in a relationship with.

A member of the opposite sex is on the outside.

This member of the opposite sex isn’t privy to the dynamics of your relationship with your boyfriend.

They don’t know the intricacies of your relationship partner’s personality.

You know your relationship partner better than anyone else in regards to how he functions within the relationship.

The same applies with your relationship partner.

He knows you best in reference to how you function within the relationship.

This is why your best option is to have open conversations that are candid and introspective with your relationship partner about the problems that the relationship endures.

The only two people in this relationship are the pair of you.

This means that it is easier to negotiate solutions to resolve these problems based on your personality types and specific needs.

You are the only ones who know what you can tolerate about each other.

Whether it be mood changes or how you adapt to different circumstances around each other, you are the only ones who have this intimate knowledge about each other.

Given this reality, you are the ones who are best equipped to propose realistic solutions to these relationship problems.

To reiterate, it all starts with candid and open communication.

Talk to each other, as opposed to yelling.

Never lay the blame for these relationship problems on your counterpart.

Putting the blame on your counterpart makes it impossible to mutually resolve these relationship problems by coming up with viable solutions.

Working as a unit to solve these relationship problems does wonders in improving your relationship.

If all you ever do is go to a member of the opposite sex to talk about your relationship problems, your relationship never improves.