It isn’t cheating.
However, it is important that you know where to draw the line.
You shouldn’t spend so much of your time talking to this member of the opposite sex about your relationship problems.
Your time is better spent talking to your relationship partner about said problems and trying to fix those problems as a team.
Where people often make the mistake is when they confide more so in their friend than in their partner.
They begin to look at that member of the opposite sex as the person to go to whenever they have an issue or argument with their relationship partner.
Instead of talking to their relationship partner about the problem, they go to their friend of the opposite sex to complain about what their relationship partner just did.
This is where things start to get tricky.
When you use this member of the opposite sex as your soundboard or your support in these situations, you will start trusting that person a lot more than you do your relationship partner.
This alone could lead your relationship partner to believe that there may be something going on between you and this friend and this alone could lead to even more relationship problems with your partner.
Trust in a committed relationship is one of the most important elements.
Without trust, a romantic relationship will often run into problems and will not last.
Again, it isn’t cheating to talk to this member of the opposite sex about your relationship problems, but your focus should be more so on talking to your relationship partner about them.
This is the person that you are actually in a relationship with.
This member of the opposite sex is on the outside.
They don’t know the dynamics of your relationship.
They don’t know where your relationship partner may be coming from in terms of why they act the way they do.
You know your relationship partner better than anyone else when it comes to how they function within the relationship.
The same applies with your relationship partner.
They know you best when it comes to how you function within the relationship.
This is why your best option is always to have honest and open conversations with your relationship partner about the problems that are transpiring within the relationship.
Being that the both of you are the ones who are in the relationship, it will be easier for you both to come up with negotiated solutions to help resolve these problems.
You are the only ones who know what you can both tolerate from each other.
You are the only ones who understand how both of your moods change or adapt to a particular situation whether it be good or bad.
Hence, you are the only ones who can really go about applying realistic solutions to these relationship problems.
Again, it all starts with honest and open communication.
You should talk to each other, not yell at each other.
No one should be laying the blame for these relationship problems on the other.
Doing this would only make it that much more difficult to come up with mutual solutions to the problem.
Working as a unit to solve these relationship problems will do wonders in actually improving your relationship.
If all you ever do is go to this member of the opposite sex to talk about your relationship problems, it is unlikely that your relationship will improve.
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